We talk about love, about the better half, about how and from what kind of relationship a couple can be formed. And when we turn to books we read Lacan's phrase 🤯. He said that in loving one gives up or surrenders something to another, what one does not have. That lack that crosses us all, that castration that every neurotic went through in his childhood. And that ♥️ is given to an other that is not, because it is also crossed by castration.
Following this path we notice that none of us is the bearer of the phallus, that which can give us or make us believe that we can have control of the other.
How simple it seems and how difficult it is sometimes to solve these questions in therapy.
Is there such a thing today 🍊 Are we looking for someone to complete us? Or do we simply look for a relationship of sincere, respectful ♥️, with whom to walk hand in hand with "what one has?" What model do we have as identification and from which model do we build our relationships? 💭
Questions can be thousands, and everything can be unraveled. That's the beauty of analysis! 🙌