Why my friends are disappearing? Adulthood and Friendship Psychology

in psychology •  last year 

As we grow up, become adults, and have more responsibilities, we begin to realize that our friends are becoming scarce. We see them less frequently and the conversations become shorter.

The main reason, generally speaking, is because all our mental effort is focused on how to generate more money, get out of debt, how to give our children a good life (for those who already have one) or how to grow in our field of work.

This is an extremely valid reason to walk away from friendships. It is inevitable that as we take on more and more responsibilities, we no longer have as much time for those close to us.

Although this does not mean that it is impossible to maintain good friendships in adulthood and even create new ones.

All of us in adulthood want to have people close to us who nurture and contribute to us, but the first thing to ask to yourself is, am I a person who nurtures and contributes to relationships?

By this I mean that if we want to meet new people or maintain bonds with those we already know, it is necessary to understand that human relationships require some effort.

We are too used to the fact that all relationships must be natural and not forced that we forget that relationships, in general, do not occur completely on their own, but are a continuous contribution between each person, an effort that does not feel like an effort, because it feels natural

So my little piece of advice is, when you feel like you're isolating yourself from others, ask yourself if you're taking the time to nurture the relationships you already have, or to cultivate relationships with new people. Even 10 minutes a day is more than enough for it, if you absolutely don't have any time.

Of course, try to never invest more in a relationship than the other person. Value your time and energy

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Good luck. Silvspell out

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