Learning Patience and Preaching Love

in psychology •  7 years ago 

I have learned a lot patience over the years when speaking with people who have the authoritarian mindset. I now understand that painting them into a corner with verbal jujitsu and trying to "win" the argument does not necessarily make converts for freedom.

People are mentally free to pursue whatever philosophical or ideological paths they want regardless of the logical strength of a philosophy. There are many more variables that go into what ideas people accept, and these variables all have to be considered before attempting to express the inherent beauty of anarchy.

Therefore, when communicating my thoughts to people I try to enter their system, or meet them where they are in life. Then I convey my connection to them and empathize with them on the points that we agree on. I believe this method works to help people change more quickly than beating people over the head with strict argumentation.

I also feel better after the discussion knowing that they did not shut down or become so defensive that they thought I was an egocentric asshole. It is this perceived arrogance that pushes people away from anarchists and makes them skeptical of the results of total freedom.


Sterlin Luxan is a visionary thinker, cryptocurrency junkie, connoisseur of psychology, an MDMA high priest, and the Mr. Rogers of Anarchism. He is the Communications Ambassador for bitcoin.com, runs a consultancy business in the crypto space, and is a public speaker. He created the doctrine of relational anarchism and contributes to many causes in the thriving liberty ecosystem.

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That's strict psychological approach. I think I will start trying such approach when trying to convey my ideas to people.
Nice post

Very interesting post "MDMA high priest" I'll have to look into that.

This is right and I agree. Winning with argument is an effete way of proving points. In most cases it doesn't solve problems but even compounds it. Being patient and humble even when right is not just a sign of a good heart and character, it is sign of maturity. Your advice is taken to heart.

Have a lovely weekend @sterlinluxan

Yeah, winning an argument, even if you're right tends to make the loser quietly hate even the mere presence of you in the room with them. It's like using a club where a feather is called for. No one likes taking that crap and all you do is make a new adversary.

Your methodology rings true :)

Wonderful story dear friend. xo

My pleasure xo

True. We need to remember there's no referee to let them know they 'lost'.
We're not adversaries unless we act like it.

Yes you are right @mattclarke