In daily life, we should definitely reject some things, but we must not be too blunt to reject others. After all, the person who can open your mouth to you is either a friend or an acquaintance. Too blunt and easy to hurt feelings. Under normal circumstances, after a person is rejected, there will be a gap in his heart, he will feel that his words or actions have been denied, and even have a feeling of abandonment.
At this time, he urgently needs a pleasant emotion to fill the gap in his heart. If you add a few words of praise when you reject the other party, it will be perfect. In this world, everyone is eager to be approved and recognized by others. Even if some of their requirements are rejected, but other aspects of themselves are praised by others, why not a kind of compensation after being rejected?
Although we know that rejection is sometimes a reasonable behavior, we are still afraid of rejecting others and being rejected. No matter which side we are on, we will suffer negative emotions. Under such circumstances, why can't we change the way of rejection?
It was like an ordinary sandwich, suddenly added a lot of delicious vegetables, that should be a big surprise! Therefore, when rejecting the other party, we must be good at adopting euphemisms.
In the morning, Cathy, who had stayed up all night before getting up, was awakened by a knock on the door. She got up impatiently, put on a pajamas and went to open the door. There was a seventeen or eighteen-year-old girl standing outside the door, hesitant to keep knocking on the door.
Cathy looked at each other up and down, and found that the girl was wearing a very casual T-shirt and jeans, carrying a bag with the words "XX Cosmetics" on the bag. Seeing this posture, it should be a door-to-door sales promotion. Cathy was a little impatient: "Why did you come to sell things early in the morning?"
The girl’s attitude was very humble: "Sorry, sister, I'm bothering you, I'm a certain company..." "Sister?" Cathy looked at her scruffy herself, as if she was still looking younger. The girl's humble attitude made Cathy is not easy to refuse, but she usually hates this kind of door-to-door salesperson. While listening to the girl promoting the product, she thought about how to reject her.
After a while, the girl finished introducing the product, and then tentatively asked: "Sister, do you usually use cosmetics?"
Sure enough, it turned to the topic immediately. Cathy shook her head and said, "I am so busy during the day and night, where can I have time to go for skin care? But, to be honest, I really envy girls of your age with good skin and body. Okay, that's the age I want to go back in my dreams, but unfortunately I can't go back anymore."
The girl blushed with shyness, and said, "Actually, my sister looks very young." Cathy smiled and said, "A girl like you is good. My daughter is at your age. Going to college, youth is so good. If my daughter is at home, she would be interested in your cosmetics, but what should I do?
Now my daughter is not at home, and an old woman like me is no longer needed. Next time my daughter comes back, you are definitely welcome to come and sell, okay? "
Unexpectedly, when she said that, the girl was not discouraged at all, but politely said: "Excuse me, sister, I'm bothering you, goodbye!" After speaking, she said goodbye.
In the case, Cathy wanted to refuse the girl who came to sell cosmetics, but looking at the other's modest attitude, she couldn't bear to refuse. How to refuse to make the other party unacceptable? After looking at the girl, she found that the other party was similar to her own daughter, so she first praised the other party's enviable age and brought him a good mood, and then refused at the right time. This way also made the other party very easy to accept. .
People are always like this. When he retrieves an apple again, even if he has lost an orange, he is still very happy in his heart. They always focus on what is in front of them. For those who are lost or cannot get, they always It is easy to satisfy. Therefore, when we have to refuse the request of others, if we say a few good words in time, we will give the other unexpected surprise.