Fell in Love? First Steps to get her on a date

in relationship •  5 years ago 

Do you feel goosebumps when you see her? Your heart begins to beat fast and you are out of breath? You want this woman but you don’t want to scare her away, right? Also, you don’t want to hear “No!” from her. Let’s check some life hacks to break the barrier and ask your crush out on a date.

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Step 1. Prepare

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Obviously you can try to act right away. But if you want to have better chances you have to prepare.
The first thing you can do is to collect some information about her. Luckily in the 21st century it’s quite easy. Literally every girl has social media accounts. So, all you have to do is to open her Facebook, Instagram, Twitter to get to know her a little bit better. It will give you an idea about her hobbies, views, preferences, etc. Instagram is a powerful tool for that, because girls post their food, gym, friends, pets, favorite restaurants, etc. You will be able to use this information in the future.
The second thing is to get yourself prepared. Women love confident and good looking guys. So, start with your clothes, shoes, haircut and nails. Believe me, there are plenty of girls that like guys with a clean ironed clothes, and there are certainly none that like guys in dirty shirts. Also, prepare to be a confident guy. You should look and sound surely and persuasively. Better not to mumble when talking.
The third thing is the right time and place for your attack. Try to make the first step when she is in a good mood and it is not noisy or crowded around. Ideally if there are no people at all.

Step 2. Melt the Ice

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Now is the right time to make the first step. Although, you don’t want to ask her out right away. It’s always better to approach carefully and use the information you have about the girl.
For example, if you know that she likes some certain sort of coffee you can buy it for her. Get 2 cups and pass one to her like pretending you don’t know it is her favorite one. It will surely break the ice.
Another example is to attend her gym. Just purchase a membership and work out a little bit with her. Just the fact that you both struggle in the same gym breaks the ice. There you can ask her advice, ask how long she has been visiting this fitness center, whether she likes protein shakes, etc.
If she is a girl from the party and you didn’t exchange the contacts ask your common friend to share her contacts or her account on Facebook. Check her profile, like and comment some of her posts. In a week send her a friend request. It should not look creepy. Nowadays people do this all the time.
Here is the full list of powerful life hacks to ask a girl out with ease.

Step 3. Get Her on a Date

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So, you got some information about her and you already broke the barrier. Now it’s time to ask her out on the first date.
On this stage the information that you’ve previously collected about her is crucial. Use her favorite things as your weapon. For instance, if you are aware that she loves cinema or theater it’s a perfect place to go on the first date.
Or another good example, if you are pretty sure she loves Italian cuisine offer her to visit some local Italian restaurant or order the food delivery if you work, study together.
One more idea is animals. Women love pets. If you both have dogs you can walk them together some time in the morning or evening. Also, it’s a good topic to discuss in person or over the text.

Step 0. Online Dating

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There are different opinions about the online dating. But the fact is invariable - it’s one of the most popular and the most powerful options to find a couple and build relationships. It became especially important during 2020 isolation. people are social creatures and need to have a constant communication.
So, you alternative option is an online date. Luckily there are plenty of different sites, services and opportunities. For instance, if you are from Europe and want to find a woman locally you can look through the European dating sites. Or if you are over 50 you can browse through senior dating websites.
The benefits of dating and marriage services are quite obvious:

  • All site members are looking for the same.
  • No fear of rejection.
  • Convenient communication tools.
  • Additional services that increase your chances even more.
  • Some sites, like VictoriyaClub provide premium features like sending gifts, flowers and even arranging trips together.
  • Important advantage of dating online in 2020 is staying at home on first stages of your relationships. Especially it’s important for singles over 50.

Wrap Up

So, if you fell in love with some woman, want to ask her out and don’t want to scare her away use the above mentioned 3 steps guide to significantly increase your chances to succeed. Don’t hurry up. If you really like her take your time, try to get to know her better. What does she like and what doesn’t she like? What does she do for living and what she prefers to do in her free time? Luckily literally every girl has Instagram. Use this information to start your conversation.
Your job is to ask her out on a date, but put it like it’s not a real date. “Let’s go grab some coffee”, “Don’t you mind if I join you during your morning jogging, I really need someone to follow”, “Let’s introduce our dogs to each other during the evening walk”. It should not sound official.
Important thing here is to be confident and do your best. However, there are no 100% working tips in the world. Moreover, in most of the cases rejections are not about guys. There are various of reasons why she may refuse. For example, she may be after serious relationship break or super busy at her job. Anyway, you always can try again later or move on. Good Luck!

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