Hi friends,
Today I want to share with you what I actually feel about the relationships. I want to start from one incident which took place when I was in middle of completing my graduation degree. I was doing my Law degree and my exams were approaching, so I needed a peaceful place to concentrate on my studies for exams but unfortunately my home was not a best place to study in because of the all time nuisance created by my two uneducated sisters and everyday fight between my father and mother was the most important reason for my decision. I decide to shift from home to hostel for 6 months, but my mother said ''my dear daughter don't go anywhere, I do not feel happy without you''. That day a thought came to my mind, Did she really loves me ? and if answer is yes then why don't she allow me to go to hostel and study well so I can give best in my exam otherwise I will fail in my exams, because its too difficult for me to concentrate on my studies at home.This was the first time when a thought came to my mind what is the reason of relationship.
We always make relationships with others. Some of the relations are created by God like Father and child, mother and child and siblings. Some relationships we make for our own sake like husband-wife and friends.So what is the true reason behind making the relationships. If the reason for making the relationship is only our love and like then it's not a relationship. There should be no reason for making relationship because if one day the reason finishes the relationship automatically comes to an end. We all are part of God and ultimate goal of life should be to reach the God with purest soul and in order to do so we have to love all the creatures created by God because to love God first we have to learn to love all creatures created by God and we can do so by giving some name to this love which we called relationship. Unfortunately in this time so many people forgot the real reason behind making the relationships. Most of the time you make friends because you love and like their company but have you ever thought to make someone a friend because that someone love or likes your company even though you don't love or like his or her company. You are making relationship because you love someone or enjoy his association, don't you think it is selfish. You are making relationship for your own enjoyment and satisfaction, this is 100% selfishness. Instead of your own satisfaction and to fulfill desire of love you should make relationship because someone else will enjoy and love your company and if you do so then you are not acting selfishly . In such a way you are doing something for someone else. If you make relationship with someone because you feel happy with him, this is selfishness, don't do that rather make relationship because someone else feel happy with you. If you say you love your friends because they always help you and love's you it means you don't love them because if in future they are not able to help you or to be with you or they stop loving you, Do you stop loving them? So there should be no reason to love someone, If the reason no more exist you stop loving them and if you do so then it means relationship never existed. For example if you love your friends because today you found their company very interesting but if in future something new came up on internet which you find very very interesting and nothing else then, do you stop liking your old friends because you do not find their company anymore interesting ? If you thinks you love someone and that person should stay with you forever and never go away from you this is affection and not a love because if you love someone you always want his best and happiness. You cannot tie someone you love. If you tie someone it means you want yourself to be happy and not other. The following statement nver be true live with me or come to me because I love you.
Ask yourself some question like why do you make relationship.
