A colleague told me today that a divorced female teacher at our school was not very happy after remarrying.
I couldn't believe it after hearing it. Because after she remarried, she found a veteran with a high salary.
There are many people in his army. Not only did he retire early from the army, but he also obtained a disability certificate and received tens of thousands of living allowances every year.
They are all divorced and reorganized families, each with a daughter. After marriage, both daughters lived with them. A year later, they had another boy.
When we first got married, men always came to our school to pick up female teachers to and from get off work. After becoming pregnant, he took extra care of the female teacher.
After the child was born, he lived with the female teacher in the public housing of our school to take care of the child, and the two daughters were taken care of by the female teacher's current parents-in-law.
We sometimes mention them, and feel that they are living happily now: they want money and have money, someone looks after the children, and the husband and wife live in harmony.
But as the two daughters went to school, their conflicts surfaced.
The female teacher had a house in the county before her remarriage. In order for her daughter to receive a good education, she sent her daughter to the county to go to school and let her parents take care of her daughter.
The son lives in the township with her husband. The son has been weaned, so she ran at both ends. Maybe because she ignored his daughter when she went to the county town to see her, it annoyed her current husband, and he became more and more dissatisfied with her.
This is manifested in the fact that he doesn't let the female teacher spend a penny on him. All the expenses in the family must be spent on the female teacher. As long as the female teacher asks for money, he will be angry.
In fact, from the very beginning, he was wary of the female teacher and firmly held his financial power, fearing that his wife would give her money to her daughter.
After a long time, the female teacher must have complained. But in front of us, she tried her best to maintain the image of their loving husband and wife, and she could only confide the pain in her heart to her parents.
Parents can't see their daughter suffering the slightest grievance. Therefore, on the female teacher's father's birthday, the father said a few words to the son-in-law, and the son-in-law became furious on the spot. He not only threw the cake on the ground, but also took his son home.
This pissed off the female teacher. This happened during the summer vacation. We saw that the female teacher had lost a lot of weight after school started soon.
If the original reorganized family lives together with their own children, the hearts of the husband and wife cannot be united.
After all, people are selfish. Most remarried people still prefer their children emotionally and materially, so the one who is left out will definitely feel unbalanced in their hearts, which will lead to various conflicts.
From this point of view, remarriage is really not easy.