I read a post this morning on @katrina-ariel about #womenspeakout and it kind of triggered a lot in my head throughout the early hours of the day. It interfered with my health presentation at a bank today. Some persons asked questions touching on this area. As regards broken homes, there are signals that one would end up divorced if they marry a beautiful face with no mind paid to other areas.
This week and the next I am going to be talking about issues around the woman. My thoughts are limited, so be kind to drop your comments and lets educate ourselves.
M E N and RELATIONSHIP
Men are looking for industrious ladies who are beautiful and intelligent all in one package. This doesn’t restrict the list of expectations men have of their female counterparts. Men also are desirous of women who are well skilled in bed and can creatively and innovatively engage them in conversations.
In this part of the world, it is easy to find a beautiful face. It is quite difficult to find a woman with the aforementioned qualities. I may not be entirely correct with my suppositions as regards this topic, but from my experience and that of others I do make bold to say this is true.
The first thing a man is attracted to is the beautiful face of the damsel walking down the road. This may not be peculiar to the African man. We may find the damsel in the market. She usually would be the lady sitting next to you in church. She would usually be a friend of a friend you are not in contact with, just too many knots to be tied.
C U L T I V A T E THE WOMAN.
Meeting a lady is not really hard for a man who has found his way around the world. This man has found purpose. He is passionate about his dreams, and is confident about his ideas, goals and aspirations. What is usually hard is finding a woman that fits into his dreams. This man fails to know (in most cases) that the lady of his dream doesn’t exist. She is the reason why she is in your dream. You have to create her. I don’t mean create her like in turning mud into a clay pot. I mean talk with her, talk to her, share your values with her, share your ideas with her, correct her, teach her… when you do this long enough, she begins to take shape… she begins to look like the woman of your dreams. Pay attention to the fact that she is first a human being, before she is your wife. Do not lord your ideas over her and make her feel like she is incapable of forming a relevant thought.
It is hard to find a woman who is intelligent, industrious, confident and beautiful, and this isn’t usually the fault of the woman. I choose to look at it from this angle. It is the role of the man to cultivate the woman. And if society is flooded by women who do not meet up with our expectations, it is because we as men have failed in our duty of cultivating the girls, the ladies, the women in our lives.
I know you have a lot to say about this, but don’t be quick to say.
I intend to build more on this topic for the rest of this month.
Be kind to drop your comments, upvote and resteem.
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I am open to your ideas about this topic. Please share your thoughts with me.
As you stated that you may have a limited experience, however based from them your reasoning stands to be true to you. I can repsect your viewpoint at this time, since you are open for dialogue and willing to teach and learn. We are always the student and the teacher. In adding my commentary, I think there has been many disadvantages for women and what is expected of them (us). Speaking from my American experience, women are trained and reared to focus on religion and school, so much so that there is little to no discussion with her on how to be a sexual pleasing individual. Sex is a great taboo and thus forth not cultivated. The aspect of over focusing on beauty and the outer aesthetics has grafted many women to come across as shallow. We here in America are bombarded daily with unrealistic beauty standards that is formulated by men. I do not believe that the problem is only in the way women are being or lack of being cultivated; I believe the problem is that neither men and/or women are properly being cultivated into suitable mates. Both sexes are given a different program at birth that does not favor each other, thusforth cultivating in lopsided suitabilty. But these are just my humble opinions. I look forward to building and learning more with this dialogue.
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This is one of the reasons I love steemit. There is always wisdom in the comments one receives. I do share your opinion and from time to time some of these you have stated would be reflected in my posts. I am looking at expanding my thoughts on the issue. It is so true that men are not rightly cultivated and as such can offer little or no direction. The media poses a medium via which lies are sold to women about what a man craves. Some of this information are half truth and as such misleads the woman. I am open to more contributions. LATER TODAY, I will be posting a Narrative Poem. I hope you looked at it. Thanks.
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Greetings, I look forward to reading more of your posts. Your writing is quite noteworthy and creates a healthy dialogue. I greatly appreciate that. There is this movie, it may be on Netflix, called Don Jon staring Scarlett Johansson and Joseph Gordon-Levitt. The movie outlines the different programs that are given to males and females. Without giving too much of the storyline, the male lead’s view of women and sex through the guild of pornography and the female lead view men and love through romance novels/movies. It is quite interesting to watch how their opposing programming play out as the attempt a relationship. I liken this movie to present day male and female relationships and interactions. Quite interesting indeed.
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I will get myself around the movie soonest. I like such movies that do not only entertain but educate. Thanks for recommending DonJon. And thanks for the kind words.
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Oh yes, I seem to be more attuned into finding hidden gems or messages in movies and tv nowadays.
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The same is true for me. Sometimes I get into an argument with siblings simply because I see movies they find awkward and interesting. I hardly am put off by a movie. I do believe there is a story beneath what is being told.
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