I would like to say that sex is overhyped in our culture. It is regarded as the ultimate disaster in our society if it happens between unmarried girl and a boy. But however it is okay if you are married but it doesnot matter if you donot have any idea about your partner. Sex is like climax of a movie for our society, ohh sex now the movie is finished. Ultimately sex will either derive good ending (marriage) or bad ending (pregnancy). Sex is never talked about in our society, even if talked about, it will be limited to non veg jokes like it is an item to eat. It will be limited to the men who are pervert, and the woman who are above 40 discussing their filthy sex life. No i am not saying that it is what I have heard, since the beginning of time.
It is because who have high standards for sex. Sex is okay for men however should not be okay for women if she desires. It is okay if men asks for intimacy in a relationship but if a girl denies it is not okay. Emotionally blackmailed, sometimes raped and sometimes left if they are not ready to do it when so called men wants it. No I am not going to make it about equality, men and women now. But it is what it is. To all men, what would you do if a girl asks you to be physical with her? There are many answers i know but majority is 'of course yes'. Part of those will be 'what a slut' and others. Would you ever deny? May be, but without judging that girl? No!!
Woman are equally to blame on sex being overhyped. Woman cant accept the fact that they are humans. Yes, they cant accept the fact that they are meant to have desires that are needed to be fulfilled as much as a man's. Sex is very important if you are in a relationship but that doesnot mean you throw yourself to everyone. Both men and women should know, to whom should you invest your time and efforts on. The person who you think you are going to spend your whole life, you should know how he or she is in bed. No matter how much you think sex doesnot matter in relationship, it does matter. You dont want to end up feeling unsatisfied your whole life only because you love your partner. You are only stable in your life if you are physically, mentally and emotionally stable. No i am not saying you should leave your partner, that is for you to decide. But you can always talk about it, if not you will end unhappy one way or another.
Having said that, you are still going to rape and you are still going to say no to your partner. Because all we ever know is sex is bad even if the source of creation is sex. It is the level of our hypocracy .