In my short personal history, I've always been grossed out by porn. I was married for close to 7 years, no matter what I did my partner couldn't enjoy intimacy. By 2005, she had grown tired of being unsatisfied and left me. After spending the next 2 years slowly killing myself with booze, I found techno. Life was new with unlimited possibilities! Women actually sought me out for pleasure.
My life was moving pretty fast until I met the cougar who decided she needed to train me. I was on the abused side of a conflicted relationship. I didn't feel good tying her up, but she demanded it. She controlled most of the men in my circle of friends, it's because of her that I moved to Tennessee. Before the relationship crashed for it's final time, we went to a small festival in Ashland called Pranafest. I sat in a small mens' circle and witnessed most of the men agree to having bad symptoms after watching porn.
It was a surprise to me.
Most of these guys were committed to doing yoga and meditation, I had no idea there was such a violent impression in the community. I no longer have any communication with Ashland, other than watching the news virus outbreaks and the CDC fighting the anti-vax rebellion. That's a different story...
I will continue to voice my opposition to porn. I will fall back on my original feeling that it's gross and manipulative. Women deserve better, why not be the best man you can be?