Everytime I see my Auntie Luz in the village, I always think some single friends in their age going 40's. Auntie Luz is a cousin of my late father, she's now in her early 60's and sleep together with my mother in our house. As the story told by my relatives, she had a lot of suitors in her adolescent but never entertained one, that she never tried having even a single boyfriend. It might be her choice to live with her family until her siblings got married and she lived with her mom until the last day of her mom's here on earth. Now she prefers to be with my mom who is not her relative because even my relatives on father's side cannot understand her moody character.
When I said earlier to remember my single friends, it is because Auntie Luz is most of the time lonely, shall I say she is lucky enouhgh to have my mother who is so kind and patient to understand her. Her loneliness is brought by her choice not to be attached to any men thus she doesn't had her own family and own children.
What if, my friends on their matured age of having no boyfriend will end up like Auntie Luz in her old age. My friends claimed they are happy being single, but will this happiness be the same in their old age?
I had learned from a religious seminar that life vocation is choosing either for a consecrated life as priests, monks, nuns, etc: married life or singleblessedness.
Singleblessedness is choosing an unmarried life.
It's an option as to how to make life happier, to serve God in some other ways though not being in a consecrated life; or helping relatives and other people in need.
However based on my friends story, to remain single is not a choice but by circumstance. Yes they really need somebody to be their partner in life yet they never find someone who is worth for them. It is because of seeing married individuals whom I can say that they became irresponsible because of poverty, that they never raised their children well.
Most reason of being single is that they are scared of having a miserable married life. Aa per testimony of couples that money matters can be a reason for conflict that is why financial stability must be also considered aside from the feelings before entering marriage. That is why some singles focus on their career and lately discover that they become happy even without a partner. But whatever the chosen vocation, it is important that we extend help to others, not hurting others.