Thank you ! This article "hits the nail on the head" for me . The only thing that I find not true in my experience is " To you altruists out there who will say this is not true, try helping others when you are unhappy inside. It just won't work." You see , as a recovering alcoholic , helping others when I'm not feeling good inside is the solution for me . It gets me out of self . That aside , I can relate to this article whole heartedly.