WEIGHTIER MATTERS!
I had just finished my lecture yesterday and periodically I entertain questions about life. On second thought, all the atoms and molecules I teach them about are not nearly as relevant to life as hyped in times past and I myself the lecturer have not even seen a single atom before!!!
My class typically comprises of single mothers,single fathers, unmarried singles and married people. The question basket went round, I got a couple of questions but this one hit me below the belt!
MY HUSBAND NEVER WANTS SEX? HE WATCHES PORN AND MASTURBATES.
We must distinguish between a wife with a higher sex drive and the man with the non-existent sex drive. One situation is representative of a normal difference in desire but the other indicates a deeper underlying problem. While both may have differing sexual appetites, it is not normal for a man to never want to go intimate with his wife.
A lot of men than care to admit were introduced to porn as boys and engaged in this secret solo sex but to the rest of the world, they presented as virgins, got married as a panacea but all to no avail!
Those images from the past still are seared into the brain and impact a man's sexual response in his marriage many years after, his brain is trained to respond to only graphic sexual stimuli so he is unable to enjoy normal sex with his wife and then periodically, he shrinks in shame and in pain and night crawls to numb the pain and barks at his spouse to erase the shame so the wife suffers starvation and deprivation and begins to thirst for affirmation and drifts into a waiting George's arm who readily does her Georgestice.....her husband still plunged in his body is totally unaware of the drift, his wife is sailing past! These duo may or may not have sex but they bond in a thousand more ways and the crack begins to show but no one talks about this! Very few tell about theirs and so I salute the courage of the lady who dared to spill this!
The good news is that there is a way out, every brain can be rewired from anomalies to "normalies"!!! God understands our bodies, our limitations and longings, so ask him to bless your sex life and use these difficulties and rough patches to help you be more like him!
ACTION PLAN
Emmanuel-Abdalmasih Samson writes; marriage is simple to the humble and complicated to the arrogant.
- Ask your spouse today about your sexual expertise and be honest to act on feedback.
2.Male or female, ask God for help in this struggle. If Holy Brother Job made a covenant not to see still or moving pictures, what are you waiting for? - Share this struggle with your spouse only after praying, remain accountable, get online and register with Covenant Eyes and also with Conquer series. Read books in this area and if you are in Portharcourt, visit Rev. CHRISTY BATURE's addiction centre and if you are in Uyo, God's House of Refuge Addiction Recovery Unit is available and willing. Dara Ezekiel Atang and Pastor Ezekiel Atang.
- Please note that heredity is the transfer of physical traits as well as sexual proclivities from one generation to another, don't let Satan win you and your children, go and get helped.
- If you are the victorious spouse, stay away from triggers by asking for help, if symptoms persist, ask God again......he is real and able. If you are the support spouse, answer to your name, support, pray, encourage and be available and keep no George!
- If you are a parent, discuss and pray with your children and kindly share this post and save a home at best
- To you and your spouse, YOU will win together, my annang compatriots like Udeme Umanah ) would say "imaka ibono" remain together and win twogether. God bless all marriages in Jesus precious name.
Thank you Jesus, manifest your power in homes an