Couples Fights Have a Solution

in steemchurch •  5 years ago 

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Sometimes the couple initiates fights based on misunderstandings or reasonable and even understandable pretexts; the most common thing we find in everyday life are details that make us assume a terrible future that probably won't come, but if we argue about it. The idea is to know how to assume that there are difficult times, but you have to know how to overcome them.

DON'T THINK FOR YOUR COUPLE

Sometimes couples usually complete the sentences or "know" in advance what the person in front of them means. The discussion history probably causes each person to assume a phrase or expression in the worst way. One should give themselves the opportunity to listen to the arguments and reasons that the person has at the time of speaking and not because of anger to block and always assume a phrase that has not yet been said.

DO NOT FORCE

The desperation for wanting to solve or clarify situations is so great that sometimes our anger clouds our understanding and we violate questions, forcibly seeking an answer. There are times to clear things up, but that moment must be sought by both; it is not a question of striviaing to "get rid" of the dilemma that is lived, it is more than through strategies to try to speak at the right time and place.

RESPECT EVEN IF THEY DON'T

We have grown up believing that "not leaving" means offending others, but the idea is not that; I'm not saying that you have to put up with it because that's how good people do it, it's more that while a person is trying to offend with his words, you have to step aside so that it doesn't end up being a street bra. If you have the opportunity to leave the place it's the most objective thing you can do, but don't think staying to fight makes you a better person than the others. Maturity is put to the test and this is the opportunity.

DON'T RESIST

Always one of us is the one who wants to try to fix things, sometimes it is who started it all or sometimes it doesn't; but the person who does not should be willing to try to find an arrangement that benefits both parties. The problem with couple discussions is that we are children again, and I don't talk about those tender children who listen carefully, rather those who get carried away by infantilism and care about nothing, let alone understand reasons. Couples should know that while they have plenty of reasons to discuss, it is time to prioritize the relationship and the common goal of being happy.

Cohabitation is not going to be simple; but it is in the little things that make us lose patience, that we are learning to understand people and discover that we all fail at some point, and in spite of everything, always who must win is love.

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