HOW TO CONTROL NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AND BE HAPPY

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Emotions can be intense. Be they positive or negative. They are strong feelings triggered by a circumstance, event, person or mood. They are a part of everyday life and a person, in the course of just a few hours, can go through an entire spectrum of emotions.
From joy at your fav team scoring to them conceding almost immediately to poor play by them and then finding out even a draw has won you the championship. Whew! That can be tiring. However, there is a need to maintain control when extreme emotions are in play, especially negative emotions. Let us learn how to control them.

Meditation
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This might sound like something you hear everytime but it really does work. Meditation has been shown to be helpful in keeping a check on our emotions no matter how strong they are. There is a core of inner calm that lets you experience the emotion without doing anything potentially destructive or would regret.
Meditation is a very strong weapon to win the battle against extreme emotions.

Deliberate Change Of Mood
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Whenever we are sad, low, angry or feeling lost, we can deliberately take our mind off it. This would, of course, take a lot of mental strength but it is doable. You can even use aids like music, movies, reading a book, whatever helps you get ahold of yourself.
Do things that make you happy as you try to push away the bad feelings.

Seek Guidance
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We, sometimes, need a shoulder to lean on and when we do we should be wise enough to act accordingly and pick the right shoulder to lean on. Pick someone with whom you can freely discuss that particular emotional trauma with. You can have different people for different reasons. There are things we feel uncomfortable discussing with our parents and a close friend or sibling might be the best choice.
Do not go it alone when you know help is available.

Test Yourself
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Ask yourself for what triggers these extreme emotions. It might even be a case of who triggers you.
Think on the times you have lost your cool and look at the sequence of events that led to that moment. Doing this would help you avoid a repeat or at least, know not to react as you already know how things will turn out.
Once this is done, a person could take a step forward and figure out a solution to the problem.

Take a good nap
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Being sleep-deprived leaves most people grouchy. Getting enough rest helps the mind as it is refreshed and able to process things better. You are also able to better control your emotions far better than if you are feeling sleepy or barely alert. More rest will result in more control over your emotions.

Change Response
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How one responds to a situation defines the real persona of a person. Situations that you usually react aggressively to can be treated in other less violent ways. You can elect to not be in that situation, walk away or keep your peace. What I am saying is there are, sometimes, other options apart from an aggressive one.
Aggression should not always be your first response to heightened emotional situations.

Let It All Out
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Yes. Let it out. Bottling things up cannot work indefinitely and you just might need a good outlet. This can be in the form of hitting the gym hard, letting the instigator know what you really think about their behavior or have the good, old cry to let it all out. Whatever works for you. Keeping everything within yourself is not good for your mental health.

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@earnestslain, this is really helpful, thank you!
Your first point on how to come off negative emotion is 'meditation'. I didn't quite get that, meditation of what sort are you talking about?

Activities to clear the mind like Yoga, massage, etc.