We know perfectly well that for a child to reach this world it is necessary for a woman and a man to join with the excuse they love, and the child is the fruit of that great love between their parents.
It is important and necessary for a healthy family that in that nucleus can reign the love of their parents towards their children, as well as the love of the parents among themselves.
the manifestations of affection, of love before the children are indispensable so that the child can be educated in how a man should relate to a woman, in order to also feel how the love of a couple also feeds him. If their parents love each other, they treat each other affectionately and for him this is something tangible, he can also share that love and feel part of it.
But there are cases in which children can feel jealous, irritated, upset at the demonstrations of affection between their parents, very natural feelings for babies in this situation.
#Oedipus complex #
In many occasions the children, they want their mother only for them and they do not want to share it with their father; and the girls want their father alone for them and it is the mother who hinders on this occasion. We are talking about the concept that Freud called: Oedipus Complex.
The Oedipus complex is a term coined by Sigmund Freud in his theory of the psychosexual stages of development to describe feelings of desire of a child by its parent of the opposite sex, and jealousy and anger towards the parent of the same sex.
According to Freud, children see their same-sex father as a rival for the attention and affection of the father of the opposite sex.
Textual reference of the Oedipus complex here
¿WHY THE NAME OF EDIPO?
There is a legend of Greek mythology that tells that Oedipus is abandoned at birth, so he does not know who his parents are. Over time he falls in love with a married woman and it is not until after killing his father to marry his mother that he learns of their identities.
Why do they behave like this?
Although it does not stop surprising and seem extremely strange to parents this behavior. The main thing is to understand that it gives rise to this attitude. Remember that a very young child is possessive. As if all our affection and love wanted it for himself, as if it is forbidden to want someone more than him, as if every sign of love that was not for him we were tearing it away.
but at the same time the fact that his parents love each other makes him feel safe. Contradictory, no? Yes, but in the human being there can be contradictory feelings.
Respect their anger but do not let them interfere in your partner's actions, do not change your behavior because if he gets his way in this aspect he will have won on a plot that does not correspond to him. And what is healthy for good family dynamics is that each one occupies his place in the family: the son in his position of son and father and mother in his position as parents but also as a couple.
WHAT TO DO?
Parents should remember that this stage the child goes through is normal and temporary for their development.
No teasing. For children it is a very serious subject although adults find it "fun".
We must make the child part of our moments of love, games and happiness. Of course this always maintaining a balance also explain that in addition to loving him, dad and mom love each other. This places him in his role as a son and is part of his necessary learning of reality.
We must not stop showing our affection before him.