Well, folks it was another late night in the Crowbar household. Once I was certain all 4 kiddos were tucked in and asleep, I snuck onto Steemit to do my usual reading and watching. I came across a post from @alimamasstory that really touched me.
That was the inspiration for my post here. And it was just something I felt I needed to share as it was. No special microphone, no lighting, no make-up! In my pajamas, speaking to you as a parent. There is a reason why we call the now “the present”. It is a gift, even if we don’t know it at the time.
I chose @Crowbarmama as a handle because I believe in doing the best you can with what you have on hand. The crowbar is a multi-purpose tool. You’ll notice my photography is a bit rough, my grammar is not the most polished, but as a homeschooling, homesteading mama of 4, if I waited to take my photos until the light was perfect or re-edited my posts a 5th time ( I shoot for 3 drafts), I would never get a post out!
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Hugs to you @crowbarmama. You have me just made me teared watching your video. Feel like just hop over to your side and give you a warm hug.
The job of a mama is indeed tedious. But as much as it is tiring, it is very rewarding. Time flies and just in a moment our kids will be adults.
My 7-year-old asked me once whether will I take care of him forever. I said yes. Then he said he doesn't want me to go heaven or else no one take care of him. I told him his lovely wife will take on the job. Then he teared. He is an emotional boy in a good sense.
This got me thinking.. Oh dear. I better enjoy the moment because it flies.
Then it got me thinking my parents must be missing us (4 of us) always eventhough they did not mention.
@crowbarmama, you've nailed it.
Much love to you. 💕
#steemitmamas
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This is very beautiful @crowbarmama and I needed to hear this today actually about living in the moments. I was just talking to @kaerpediem on one of my posts about why life have some mishaps before it shows a good ending. Your video actually explained that, that if we know in advanced it won't be as special and precious. What an emotional video and keep preaching this, mama! Your tears and vulnerability have made it even more convicting and touching! Now, onwards to building memories and living them while we are in it! Thank you, hugs 💖
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By the way, the charisma you carry with you in all your videos is very pleasant and influential (I was finding a word for it, and now I got it -charisma!) I rarely click in dtube to watch (because it usually gives me problem with loading and now I have also problem trying to upload my first dtube video) but I just got "sucked" in whenever I watch you in it, very genuine and beautiful. I absolutely think you will go far with videos on Steemit. I actually love your purity a lot 💖
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Wow! Thank you so much for your kind words! When I first started on the platform I was determined to remain anonymous, but once I started vlogging I just found I could express myself more freely and confidently than through the written word. Now if I do a written post, it's usually a recipe. 😆
So, you uploaded your first dtube video? So cool! I'm going to go search for it as soon as I finish these comments! I love your blog posts and am sure your vlogs will shine as well! Many blessings to you! 😘
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Hahah I didn't upload any video yet because dtube kept showing me error with the prompt 'unknown error' in my every single attempt. Not sure how to rectify that yet :P
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Aww @crowbarmama, how did we manage to make each other cry a couple of times in a day?! Sorry I only get to respond later, things have been crazy on my end. You're right, moments are fleeting and they pass by in the blink of an eye. I was just having a not so fun time with my little girl the other day and though we were both tired and whiny, I looked at my little guy and was reminded of how little my girl once was, how her head rested on my chest as a cradled her to sleep and how she was in total reliance. She's 3 now, and I need to constantly remind myself that she's 3 or I will end up acting like she's 30 and expecting her to behave like one. I went back to the room while she napped and just cuddled her for as long as I could. Much love to you mama, love the photo of you and your clan! Xx
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And oh by the way, you pronounced my handle correctly! 😂😘 Ali is my daughter's name, short for Aliza 😊
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Yay, I'm so glad I pronounced it correctly! And yes, my oldest is 12 so I see memories of her in my other three kids. I cannot believe how fast the last decade has flown by! And she is just so mature and reliable that sometimes I forget her age. I have to remind myself and give her some grace. There will always be a certain bond with the oldest though. That one on one time cannot be replaced. Thanks for the kind words and the inspiration!! 😘
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LOVE that thumbnail. What a great picture! The facial expressions and that casual way you're holding the hammer. You guys are awesome. If I saw it on a postcard I'd totally buy it to add to the art display on my wall. (don't mean that in a creepy way :D )
A touching video and a fantastic reminder to be present and mindful every day. Actually I have to admit that I was crying right along with you (doesn't take much to start me off, but still...). So happy you shared this and you're totally right.
I don't have a parenting example to draw on, but it reminded me of the time in my early twenties just after I'd met my first boyfriend. He was working at a youth hostel out in the wilds of Wales. It was a 2 hour drive from my parent's house in Birmingham. That's quite a long distance in UK, but still I'd drive out every week to see him. At the time, it was kind of a chore, I wasn't used to driving long distances and it seemed like a lot of time to spend travelling every week. Then later on, when he moved back to Birmingham and we saw each other all the time, I realised I missed that weekly drive. The time I'd spend there in the car, listening to music and feeling happy because I'd see him soon. That longing and anticipation. It was a Moment, and I didn't realise until it was gone.
I'm sure there have been others and that there'll be more, and all we can do is try our damnedest to pay attention and enjoy the seconds as they tick by. What wonderful life this is. We're so lucky.
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Haha! Totally not creepy! I love vintage style art and when I was younger I had a few posters and postcards of Black & white photos of kids in vintage style clothing. In fact, my husband made our wedding invitations in that style using toddler photos of us, but then editing in a tux & top hat on him and a tiara and white dress on me.
I absolutely love your example of a moment! I did that too! Those long car-rides where you're alone with your thoughts & feelings, without inhibitions, without anyone telling you how to feel or what song to listen to and able to belt out your favorite tune at the top of your lungs freely. (Sigh...) See? You just gave me a chance to reflect on a fond moment...
Thanks so very much for your encouragement here. I always enjoy your thoughtful comments!
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OMG I'm crying with you. Yes I'm agree some moment we don't even know but when times gone when we thinking about it we miss it so much. Moment that I will miss is the time with my grandma grandpa and I know that won't last so long. Thank you for this talk I will try to remember the moment with the person I do care :)
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Yes, those moments can be with anyone! I believe it can also be moments alone too. We underestimate how soothing it can be for our souls for us to spend quality time alone with our the hustle and bustle of everyday life. We owe some gentleness and patience with ourselves as well. 💖
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This is the first time dtube has played for me with no hiccups and I am so glad it did. That was very well said. I am in that place knowing that the time will come when the kids won't really need me anymore. So I am trying not to let the tired and frazzled get to me... not always successful, but I am conscious of it now.
Thank you so much for sharing this @crowbarmama
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Thank you @kaerpediem, oh I get tired & frazzled!!! It is hard to stay above it sometimes. We're human! But being conscious of it means we're developing those pathways in our brains and it should get easier and easier... right? 😉
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❤️
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Your post has really touched me. Sending you big hugs as tears are running down my face...
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Thank you so much! Hugs right back to you! You were one of the first to ever comment on the @crowbarkids' posts. You were always genuine and thoughtful and I appreciate that. I am envisioning you in light and peace and look forward to when you can share good news with us all. Your strength is admirable!
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Thank you, @crowbarmama. We are hoping for peace and light too. But it may be a long way off.
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Yes I agree 1000%. All these things that we have to do everyday are life. It is too easy and almost a natural response to want these chores or work out of the way so that we can do other thing that we perceive to be better some how. Thing is most of our lives are made up of day to day things so people are literally wishing their lives away. I have to put in a lot of effort to remind myself of this fact everyday especially when I am with the boys. Summer hols now so I get much more time with them, it will take away from my work time but what am I working for if its not to be with them. Awesome vid and very thought provoking.
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Exactly!! The whole idea of "I'll be happy when..." just kills me. If we can't be happy now, then what will be different then? You'll have that thing or that person, but you're the same you and you need to be happy with yourself first for you cannot serve from an empty vessel!
And yes, what are we working for? I've told my kids before how different we are from most families because they have both their mom and dad right here 24/7. We choose to drive old reliable vehicles because we don't see the need to go into debt when our vehicles serve their purpose and are easy to work on. If we thought we needed newer fancier vehicles or a bigger home , then maybe Daddy would have to travel for work or perhaps Mommy would have to leave the house to work, but we've decided our greatest treasures, our greatest investments are right here.
Thanks so much for your encouragement @jist.
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Honestly my eyes are watering where I'm tired........ lol
Really touching video! Just like Jist I 1000% agree, even though my son is only a year and a half old I already know what you mean
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Oh yes, nothing like having a little one in the house to get even the most manly men misty eyed at the thought of those moments passing by too soon! My husband is one of the toughest guys I know, but he cried 4 times that I'm certain of--at the births of each of our children. Thanks so much for sharing.
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howdy from Texas @crowbarmama! sorry this is late, got to your blog last night, brought up the video and ..silence,,internet was offline again, waited till 2am and it still wasn't on so I gave up till this morning...
so this morning I get the video playin expecting to see, I don't know, something fun and whimsical but nooooo! now I gotta get all emotional..and I don't do emotional! I'm a rough, tough Texan redneck don't ya know?! lol.
gotta enjoy each moment because ya don't know which ones are gonna be the impactful, turning point, revelatory ones and IN a moment the kids are grown.
love that photo..you know what you should do? you should be holding a great big honkin crowbar, you know, the kind they call a Wrecking Bar?
and then have the kids holding smaller ones to fit their age and size..since you are training them up to be a conqueror in life like you are.
that's just...my 2bit opinion. lol.
great post! God bless you all!
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Oh no! Sorry to throw you a curveball @janton! Lol! Yeah, that was definitely different from my usual posts. I guess I kind of surprised myself too!
You know what's funny? We did that photo during our road trip back to California. We were staying with my parents and when I told my Dad I needed a crowbar for a photo shoot he brought me the Wrecking Bar! We all had a good chuckle and went to find a more suitable size for what I was envisioning. But now, I wish I'd thought of that! Maybe the next time we do a shoot we'll work that in.
Thanks so much for stopping by. Always a pleasure!
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howdy and good Saturday to you @crowbarmama!
thanks for getting back to me. I don't know what your location is now but you used to live in California! wow, no wonder you moved! lol.
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Lovely post, and I so agree. Sometimes it is the smallest things that mean the most in the end.
I remember as a kid standing behind my great-grandmother's rocking chair and brushing her long, luxurious hair, that still had just a hint of the dark auburn it had been when she was young. My sisters had similar memories, and we all treasured them long after she was gone.
And sometimes, when my cat Bear jumps into my arms for the umpteenth time, and I'm less than patiently trying to get a post out, I finally take the hint to just stop, cuddle with him and enjoy his unconditional love in the present moment. He'll be fourteen in November, and these moments won't be available forever.
And when Marek is home, he often asks me to brush his long hair, usually when I'm at my busiest. But even though I sometimes put him off, or don't approach the task with the utmost graciousness, within a moment or two I'm fully present, we're each enjoying one another's close contact, and yes, these moments together are truly precious.
Thank you for your lovely reminder.
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Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. So many beautiful connections... And yes, even our furry family members need those moments with us too! There is something about grooming that is such a basic need, but can be done with such tenderness that it really becomes an act of service and love.
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I completely agree.
And it is up to us to recognize that, and respond with love.
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Bo and I were listening to this and I was driving. Bout killed us through my tears! Lol
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Oh dear me! I'm so sorry! Now, I know if anyone here gets this, it's you! I believe we have a lot in common lady! I think our kids might be close in age, outside of my oldest that is. Anyway, big hugs to you mama!! 😘
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Beautiful post! Moments create memories and memories last a lifetime...although as I get older it is getting harder and harder to remember those awesome moments. haha :) I like how happy and positive you are. Very inspirational. :)
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Thank you! Yes, I must agree, the memory does start to get rusty as we gather more memories...😉 Bittersweet. But you know, that's my favorite kind of chocolate! :-)
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hahaha I like how you described that "gather more memories" haha. Bittersweet is decent chocolate..lol
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the thumbnail is already worth an upvote.
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Aw, thanks!
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