Parts of Me: How I learned to become a parent at 12 years old. (Part 1.) The day it all began.

I'll type it out in the next day or so. Thank you so much for reading it's really hard for me to be this vulnerable but I hope it brings awareness to a couple issues and helps people in similar situations out.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

https://steemit.com/life/@kryptik/parts-of-me-how-i-learned-to-become-a-parent-at-12-years-old-part-2-the-sheltered-life

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skum (53) · 8 years ago

Thank you for opening the door on your story so that we can take a glimpse inside domestic violence.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Hey no problem. That's what this thing is about. We can enrich each other's lives and learn from different experiences and points of view. Thanks for reading.

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gonzo (68) · 8 years ago

First off this is beautifully written, I was literally on the edge of my seat.
But the content, good God, every paragraph I was hoping aliens would tractor beam Daddy Dave away for a couple of light years of good ol' fashion probing.

Great story!!!
I am amazed by how well adjusted you are and I can't wait to find out what comes next.

Please be tractor beam for Daddy Dave controlled by an alien with a mustache that's holding a generous sized prober.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Thanks for the read brother! That means a lot coming from a guy like you.

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gonzo (68) · 8 years ago

Thanks for writing it.

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meesterboom (78) · 8 years ago

Jeez man that's some tough shit. It must have been hard writing it down but hopefully somewhat cathartic too.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

I am very gracious you took the time to read this. Thank you for that.

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meesterboom (78) · 8 years ago

Never a problem for one of the dudes my friend!!

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Hey man! No worries. It's definitely not something I talk about a lot. Must say a lot about how much I trust this community!

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pjheinz (66) · 8 years ago

This is one of the most sincere, honest, naked, and open glimpses into someone's origins I think I have read in years.

You have a knack for opening up and getting the reader to empathize.
Keep it up

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

I see you made it through this! I think the empathy comes from the authenticity. Thank you so much for the kind words.

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jedau (67) · 8 years ago

Powerful stuff. I feel for you man. I mean, I don't know what it was like, but I admire your fortitude and your strength to share this part of your life. It surely must've been hard. Heck, "hard" doesn't even cut it. And you seem so happy on chat too, I couldn't have know. This really needs to be the kind of posts that trend. This exposition of the human condition. While other social media tend to highlight only the good stuff, Steemit really has a way of exposing the real stuff. I'm proud of you, man.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

This is fantastic feedback. I seem happy because I am happy. I might not have reached the level of exposure as a Jeff Berwick type post but just read some of these comments. I'm changing the way people think about things and that is much more rewarding. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

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jedau (67) · 8 years ago

That's my intention for every feedback I leave, I'm glad you appreciated it. We have the same exact goal, and I'm just glad at least one other person share that objective. No offense to the celebrities or the whales, but I prefer honest to goodness feedback and promoting others rather than making it just all about myself.

You have gained a new follower, sir. I hope you get a chance to read some of my previous work and see if any of them strikes a chord with you as well.

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reneenouveau (66) · 8 years ago

It's a tough read, but an important one. The strength and resilience required to survive such a harrowing childhood is amazing. And this isn't some stranger on the internet...it's our own Kryptik. Dude, dude, we love you so much, thank you for sharing your story.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Not as much as I love everyone here. Thanks!

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thebluepanda (66) · 8 years ago

This story broke my heart. I hope there is a special kind of hell for people who are so cowards that show their "strengths" to people that are unable to defend themselves.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

There's much more to this series. Stuff like this happens everyday and when you're the one living it it's hard to admit there is something even going on at home. Keep your eyes peeled. You'd be surprised how many people are affected by this.

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thebluepanda (66) · 8 years ago (edited)

i know.. i have some close friends that went through the same... That's why i am taking it personal.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

In the long run it makes them stronger kinder people.

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thebluepanda (66) · 8 years ago

and that's why they are my best friends :)

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diana.catherine (63) · 8 years ago

@kryptik, your story was really touching. From the first paragraph until the last one, I couldn't stop reading. I'm so sorry that you've been through this harship. I just hope it made you a lot stronger. Man, I have goosebumps.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Thank you. All of this support from everyone is awesome and I'm definitely a lot stronger because of everything that's ever happened in my life.

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raymonjohnstone (62) · 8 years ago

Thank you for sharing kryptik.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Thank you for reading!

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serejandmyself (70) · 8 years ago

Wooof thats a long read )))

Maybe break it into smaller bits, its a good story, regardless of reality.

But i think a lot skip because of the length!

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Believe it or not this is breaking it up! lol.

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jaredcwillis (60) · 8 years ago

That was my initial thought, but after reading I don't know where he could have cut or split. It's encouraging to see that there is a market here for long-form content.

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natnot (53) · 8 years ago

Reading was hard, can't imagine what going through it was like! Makes me so angry, bless you boys and your mum.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Thank you so much! Life's a journey right?

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natnot (53) · 8 years ago

It is indeed :)

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abarefootpoet (61) · 8 years ago

Dude. Wow. Thank you for this, so vulnerable and real. <3

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jasonstaggers (63) · 8 years ago

Wow, thanks for sharing that. I'm sure that's not easy to relive. I was getting angry and I wasn't even there. I hope the story ends with how this has affected you as a person, and how you've worked through it to the point of being able to write openly about it. Well done.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

It's definitely headed in that direction. It takes a couple twists but life always throws curveballs.

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anarcho-andrei (64) · 8 years ago

That was intense. A very good friend of mine went through something similar to this when he was growing up, around 10 or 11, though the beatings weren't as severe in his case. He did have to struggle with his mother and 8 year old sister through the abject poverty, though.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Man that's the worst part. I live in America and people don't act like the stuff exists. It's like everyone whom is subjected to poverty is written off. Can't wait to share my thoughts on it.

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kaykunoichi (62) · 8 years ago

oh my god :'(

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Don't be sad. I wouldn't trade my experiences in life that I've had for anything. It's what makes me, me.

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mahma (45) · 8 years ago

This comment, @kryptik, is about as powerful as your story, and I completely resonate with it! I had similar yet different experiences as a child too; I was the oldest and protector, however unlike you, it was only my mother who suffered the abuse. Many people let experiences like this destroy their entire life, long after the experience has past. Kudos to you for growing from it rather then being destroyed by it.

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tralawar (54) · 8 years ago

Thank you for sharing this! I can't imagine going through this. I am glad the #steemitwriteoff. We were hoping to find great rite of passage stories. It was a tough read base on the content, but well worth it. It filled me with gratitude for my upbringing and empathy for those that share your story.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

I think most people have agreed with what you have said. A great story isn't always comfortable, or the most well written, but is defined by the impact it has on the reader. This post was meant to provoke thought and I think I have accomplished that.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

To add to my last statement it was powerful enough that I had to post my first draft. I couldn't go through the editing process.

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tralawar (54) · 8 years ago

By content, I meant subject matter :) It is one thing in movies and another reading about actual events.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Either way thanks for starting something that pushed me over the edge to write this!

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stealthtrader (67) · 8 years ago

Well told brotha.. I know how some of this feels but were stronger because of it!

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Next time you are going to have to tell your story. I'm counting on it! Lol. Great talk we had about this man.

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nextgen622 (71) · 8 years ago

Wow, what an emotional journey. Thanks for sharing @kryptik.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Thanks for reading! I really enjoyed your piece today as well.

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daut44 (63) · 8 years ago (edited)

I read and upvoted this last night, but I'm not sure if I commented on it (I may have). At the time I thought it was fiction and it was still tough to read, but upon finding out it happened made my heart ache even more. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

But the weird, dark, and sadistic part of my mind thought of something just now and it's just too fucked up for me not to share: can you imagine an unsuccessful minnow that's never had a post make money that read this and thought "god I wish I had a drunken abusive stepdad so my post would get rewards".

I watch too many fucked up comedians, my brain clearly needs rewiring.

But in all sincerity thank you for sharing, and I'm glad you are now able to gain strength from such a terrifying and traumatic experience. Always enjoy your writing and see you in the chat 🙂

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

I worked at a comedy club for a few years in my youth. That's not nearly vulgar enough to disturb me lol. Thanks man I appreciate it.

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kreativ (55) · 8 years ago

Oh gosh, this was a difficult read, but so beautifully written and so brave of you to write it.
That fear of not knowing if you are going to get hit or not sends chills down my spine and brought up a few things I thought I had long forgotten about.
Thank you for writing this...it is the sort of powerful and raw writing which helps change lives.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Thank you so much for the kind words! I hope it does.

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corinnestokes (61) · 8 years ago

Wow. You've been through a lot. I'm glad you made it out to a shelter. Looking forward to hearing the rest of the story. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. Seems like it would be difficult to write. I hope many read this and become more aware of the reality of domestic violence. It can be easy for me to not think about stuff like this because I had a good childhood and now have a good marriage. Thank you for shining a spotlight on this topic.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Hey no problem! Thank you for reading!

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mahma (45) · 8 years ago

I found youur post in chat. I saw some there saw they have had similar experiences, and some comments as well. As I read them all I could think was to quote you: "is this what normal is like?" And I think, sadly, yes. Although as I said in another comment, peoples experiences vary, but no one should ever fear for their safety at the hands of a parent or gaurdian. The empathtic me has a REALLY hard time with this. While your courage is really admirable, and I don't want to take away from your story by talking about others, I wish this was not such a prevalant experience for children.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago

Same here. Thank you so much for your thoughtful feedback. There are many hidden epidemics and I just wanted to shine a light on a few that I struggled with. You wouldn't believe how many others PM'd me saying they had been through similar things.

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getonthetrain (69) · 8 years ago

Wow, this must have been hard to write. Props to you.

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kryptik (63) · 8 years ago (edited)

It was easy to write. It's hard to admit we aren't perfect. (As in our lives aren't perfect).

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