What is beauty?
Is beauty important for a long-lasting relationship? Can men and women remain beautiful for each other at any age? These are good questions in an era of social media and selfies. Physical attractiveness seems to be the only merit that counts nowadays and photos applications compete with each other to provide to their users more tools to make their subjects more attractive to others.
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I do not share this festivity. I have met, along the years, beautiful women, with some I have spent a considerable amount of quality time and I am telling you, beyond any doubt, that even the most beautiful person loses their attractiveness when their behavior is vicious. Conversely, if you allow an unattractive person to express their kindness, witness and passion, soon enough their true beauty will be revealed to you.
The Hunchback's beauty
A story that I have heard once tells about a young man whose name was Moshe Mendelson, the famous German philosopher, who was far from being handsome or physically attractive. Not only was he short but he had an ugly hunch.
One day he visited the house of a merchant from Hamburg who had a beautiful daughter by the name Phromtha. Mendelson desperately fell in love with her but his appearance was repulsive and she could not even dare to look at him. No sooner he had to leave, Mendelson gathered all his inner strength and climbed the stairs to Phromtha's room. He was hoping that he would have the last chance to look at her divine beauty. But alas, Phromtha caused him great sadness for she could not raise her head to look at him.
Following several failed attempts to make a conversation, Mendelson looked down and shyly asked Phromtha: "Do you believe that matching is determined in heaven?"
"Yes, I do", Phromtha answered and her eyes were still fixed on the room's floor. "And you, do you believe that?", she asked Mendelson.
"Indeed. I believe so too", he answered. "You see, in heaven, when a male baby is born, God announces who would be his future wife. When I was born they showed me the woman whom I would marry, but God added that she would have a hunch!".
"Right then I cried: 'Oh my dear merciful God, a hunch is a terrible thing and for a woman, it's much worse. Please give the hunch to me to carry and leave her beautiful".
Mendelson became silent and Phromtha looked in his eyes for the first time. A distant memory stormed her spirit. She stretched her arm and took Mendelson's hand.
Later they got married.
That’s a really beautiful and emotional story. When it comes to “even the most beautiful person loses their attractiveness when their behavior is vicious.” and than in reverse, I completely agree. Yes, most people look for attractiveness in other person, I did as well. But now, when I’m married for that long, there are other things more important than the beauty itself when it comes to physical look. I also would be lying if I said I don’t notice an attractive women. We are just a humans and even though I’m married and have never cheated, I don’t deny not to look or say Hello to a beautiful person even with a hunch. I also believe that those two beautiful people in The Hunchback's beauty story and many more like this have incomparably stronger bond than any partnership being together for attractiveness.
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... So what you are saying in other words is that the features we perceive to be not attractive in our physicality, are actually a gift because we know that if a person chooses us they do so thanks to our virtues and inner self, which are the foundation for a true long lasting relationship.
Indeed, attractive people might have a problem, like rich people. Luckily, thanks to online communication people can spend significant time with others before meeting them, and so to realize if the interest is genuine.
Thanks for this comment 👍
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i have an ex GF, she's quite beautiful, her beauty attracts more male and that was the reason we broke up, but at least I learned my lesson, now I have a GF who's not beautiful but beautiful inside her heart, soul and brain, and i'm happy and contented with her. :)
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I know what you mean.
If she were balanced she would not attract so many; her balance would reject them upfront. You broke up with her not because she was beautiful but because you both felt that she would need time with/for herself to find that inner self sustenance, i.e. feeding off of herself.
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A lovely story about Mendelson that I did not know...thanks for that!
In high school we had such an ugly teacher that when we first met him, we were really "scared".
After a while, he turned out to be one of our best teachers, knowing us so well that we"fall in love of him".
This is because of the way he approached to each of us to encourage us to do our best.
His classes were always with a lot of interest and fun..
What a charming and wise teacher he was, something you couldn't guess according to his look.
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Exactly!
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It is a beautiful story of love, it shows the true essence of a relationship, the spirituality and the feelings...
I quote the following:
Many people rely on attractiveness, perhaps for a first impression, attractiveness is an important point, but while it is true that beauty goes away and disappointments and betrayals begin, beauty matters for shallow people who rely on vanities, However, I support the human being who strives to look good, it is a label that can open the doors to you in many places, but it is important to nourish our mind and our heart, it is what really shows who we are. Happy night, buddy.
Forgive my mistakes with the language, the translator helps me
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And our bodies!
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Very important as it bypasses the mind. I'm saying that beauty and attractiveness are often different things. Many super models are not considered attractive at all...
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Reading well, I think a person can be attractive but not beautiful, you're right, although beauty is subjective..
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I like the last word, finally they got married after strunggle the problem... So this story is happy ending. So, what about they children?
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A story for you to write 😊
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Okk... May be next time... Like naruto and boruto next generation anime...😅
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OOOh, nomad- magus the story portrays the goodness of some people.
I strongly believe though some people do not hear the voice of the lord due to the worldly pleasures and somehow these people go with the wrong partners thus the high numbers of divorce these days but OMG getting married to the person that God chose for you is the best the mere fact there are ups and downs in Marriage but when God is in between all things work out perfectly because he is the author of our lives
Attractive people are good to hang with but I have noticed most of them have an attitude of " am cute every one wants to hang out with me " so they treat people arraogantly
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... Arrogance is a virtue that kills attractiveness very quickly
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In my opinion, the most attractive people are the ones who know that their physical appearance isn’t the most attractive thing about them. They have a certain kind of confidence, they’re usually more fun to hang out with, and they’re the kind of people who are ready to love you for who you are. But along with this fact there are some other factors which most people consider for assessing someone.
Although personal grooming and cleanliness also important for someone to attract the other, but confident and caring behavior is also important.really a great question. Beauty depends on mental situation. Some like black, some like white and some other like brown.But it's true that it doesn't exist long time.
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What people usually dont see....
And what people usually show off which they shudnt ...
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Effective story for our life.....I add little words in hunchback .when you're a kid, they tell you that it's what's on the inside that counts. Looks don't matter . But that's not true. Guys like Phoebus in The Hunchback, or Dorian
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Indeed ! The wiser you get the more you understand this. But at the same time, its is usually the first thing that attracts us to someone. But then you have to search for the really beauty in the personality. That hunch back story was good, I kind of forgot it. What a line:)
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how do you seduce a girl? read this story. a story that has the power of soul in every word. hopefully i can marry this way. 😃😃😃
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beauty....very subjective topic....various among each individual :)
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Strange story and really wonderful
The human being from stage to phase changes and the beauty changes
Have a good story
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Nothing is perfect in this world, the physical man will surely change with age. Because his love is caused by your physic is not impossible if his love will also follow your physics, if the more beautiful you will be more love with you and vice versa, the uglier or aging you will be less love also. I think so @nomad-magus
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Beauty is not what you see in a mirror.True beauty if personified through your spirit.Beauty is in your grace and love it is your
Unbridled affection and appreciation.
The admiration of your personification.
really enjoyable story dear sir
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by my thinking
i said it that
dear @nomad-magus
Beauty is in you.Beauty is your warm unique smile.That special thing that drives them wild.The expressions of your magnificent soul.Your beauty is what makes you whole.Beauty is in you.Like flowers your beauty towers above the sky.
Your beauty is what mesmerizes.
its just awesome ,,i love your post with hearted,,really great meaningfull post.
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dear sir
i think it is defined by the symmetry of your face, is it your age, colour, race, bone structure, gender, body shape, weight or how flat your stomach is? Or maybe it's defined by what you see in the media or by popular culture and trends, for example big bums and big lips are in, simply because of certain trending celebrities.
really great story that you share
@nomad-magus
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Right saying sir @nomad-magus. Our good behavior like kindness, truthness, purity,witness remains us beautiful at any age. People love those whose heart is pure.
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The pictures catches my view and draw my attention also. Intresting story
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There is no real beauty without some slight imperfection.
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@nomad-magus
In my opinion, the most attractive people are the ones who know that their physical appearance isn’t the most attractive thing about them. They have a certain kind of confidence, they’re usually more fun to hang out with, and they’re the kind of people who are ready to love you for who you are. But along with this fact there are some other factors which most people consider for assessing someone.
Although personal grooming and cleanliness also important for someone to attract the other, but confident and caring behavior is also important.
So in last I ll just want to say that reject someone just one his/her looks is not a better option to choose. And I ll appreciate your article as its with angle of thinking about someone.
@imsteem
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Those who have seen the new film starring Emma Watson know that — spoiler alert! — one of the most emotional scenes in the movie is when the Beast takes Belle to the home her father fled when her mother was dying of plague. As the scene closes in on the tiny Parisian apartment, you can see Notre Dame cathedral in the distance. It's a momentary detail, but one that fans didn't ignore. (And for good reason: The set designers and CGI experts had to make the conscious decision to place Notre Dame in the backdrop, even if the scene lasts a moment.)
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Your question is really a great question. Beauty depends on mental situation. Some like black, some like white and some other like brown.But it's true that it doesn't exist long time.
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a very good post @ nomad-mag .. i like this with your fun story ..
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There are surely planets out there where that which here on Earth is considered physically beautiful is considered ugly over there, and what is considered as ugly here considered as beautiful there.
As always, it is all about the energetic signature of a being. Beauty doesn't come from the outside in but from the inside out, which of course means that a beautiful appearance doesn't entail a inner beauty, yet inner beauty always shines to the outside. In its most real sense, discovering our own inner beauty naturally changes our perception of how we see ourselves so that we authentically like the way we look. To some extend, physical changes are are also possible, but most telling is probably the eye expression..
Cool story! What a beautiful woman that she believed Mendelson's words right off. ;)
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dear sir this story is very amazing.I read your writing. osam.
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the most attractive people are the ones who know that their physical appearance isn’t the most attractive thing about them. They have a certain kind of confidence, they’re usually more fun to hang out with, and they’re the kind of people who are ready to love you for who you are. But along with this fact there are some other factors which most people consider for assessing someone.
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It's scary and smiling at the same time.
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for me beauty is similar to choice
what i found beautiful is not beautiful for others
sometimes many people have same choice,that choice is more beautifull
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I saw the struggle mendelson in approaching Phromtha, with all the shortcomings mendelson he reach into a force in conquering love. she is brave and honest.
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in my opinion, pretty it's relative mr @nomad-magus.
sometimes there is a beautiful but he realized not beautiful but that is not beautiful feel beautiful, how about your opinion about it ??
a very amazing story for me.
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the story is fun @ nomad-magus, indeed a man would like the girl ", I think we choose someone to take a husband, or our wife first look with his attitude first, jagan clay his face aja nice heart is not necessarily good. .
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What makes a woman beautiful is because of her personality and behavior. A good woman, aura of beauty will emanate from within her. A man will be at home and a long lasting relationship because of his kindness. Kindness is what beautify. The problem of selfi, the people who at all times do selfi is actually suffering from a self-image crisis, so it takes recognition from the people that he is beautiful.
With love life becomes beautiful, and with love life becomes easy.
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