The experience of child-rearing in nature is much the same.
In order to learn to fly, the eagle carried the baby over a cliff, then let go and let the baby fall into the abyss.
In order to survive, the young eagle can only desperately flapping wings, finally in the bottom of the cliff before a second flapping wings high.
It's the same with people.
When the child is young, the parents only know how to dote on the child, but do not know how to survive in the wind and rain when the child grows up.
Parents spoil, is not careful to clip the wings of the child.
Greenhouse seedlings cannot grow into towering trees.
A child in a honey pot cannot face the test of society.
No matter how much you love your child and how much you love him, you must also let him bear the seven kinds of pain so that he will have the strength to carry the future.
One
To study hard
"Ten years of cold window, hardened steel", everyone's life is not doomed, but his own hard work.
If a student from a humble family studies hard and is admitted to the best university, he or she can change his or her destiny.
As long as the students study hard and arm themselves with knowledge, they will have wisdom.
Reading and not reading life, is completely different.
Children who do not read, go to school very easily, others listen to his mind, others learn to play.
But when he grew up, knowing nothing, he was nothing. He could only do the hardest work and live the hardest life.
The first half of life to steal the lazy, the second half desperately also. Reading is hard, but life without reading is harder.
Northern Song poet Lin Bu said:
"If you do not work hard, you will work hard; If you are young enough to give in to the old, the old will be at ease."
The bitterness of reading must be from snacks, not afraid to eat, take the initiative to eat, eat more, the future will be more broad.
Two
The labor of the bitter
Labor, is the most glorious thing, is also the most bitter, the most tired thing.
Those who love to work and are willing to sweat, eventually create outstanding achievements and lead better and better lives.
And those who never work are being punished by society.
As the saying goes:
"The less willing you are to use your children, the less useful they will be."
Parents encourage their children to do housework and work more, not only to share family responsibilities, but also to let their children understand the significance and importance of work.
Studies have shown that children who love work have higher employment rates and greater happiness in life when they grow up, which are not enjoyed by children who do not love work.
When they were young, they enjoyed the days of clothes and food, but when they grew up, they could not even do simple washing and cooking, becoming an incompetent "giant baby".
The real love of children, not to put him in the honeypot, but to properly let go, willing to use the child.
Labor is the best source of education, far-sighted parents, are willing to carry on labor education to their children.
Three
Criticism of the bitter
One of the hosts once said this:
"It is easier to give birth to a son than to raise one; Children are easier to raise than to teach."
How many parents love their children, reluctant to criticize him, resulting in more and more children not sensible, more and more capricious.
It is important to know that certain undesirable elements of a child's nature are to be eradicated.
If parents do not want to criticize, discipline their children, that is to indulge their children.
Criticism is uncomfortable for the child, but because of the discomfort, the child just know that he did not do a good job, to do better.
A good education, is bound to be lenient, reward and punishment clear; Good parents must be synchronized and kind.
There is an old saying: "The trees in the cutting, the child in the tube."
rowing seedlings, only after pruning can be more strong, growing children, only after discipline can be more outstanding.
Strict is love, lenient is harm, connivance is destruction, parents' criticism, can promote the progress and growth of children.
Four
Thinking of bitter
Confucius said, "Learning without thought is labor lost; thought without learning is perilous."
A professor at Tsinghua University also pointed out that in China, 90 percent of children pretend to study.
Some children think that learning is like this, listen to the class on time, do homework on time, good grades on the lucky, bad grades to admit that they are stupid.
There are no real stupid children in the world, but they are all "accumulated lazy stupid".
These children have given up active thinking, refused to solve problems, into a state of numbness.
All procrastination, lack of motivation, boredom with learning, grades going down or stagnating are the result of children not wanting to suffer the pain of thinking.
Bring up a studious child, please give him proper control.
The parents are gentle and strict, and give the child respect and boundaries that are not to be breached. He will know what to do and will be willing to do it.
Only let the children study hard, insist on thinking, in order to get rid of the "accumulation of lazy into stupid".
Parents should be ruthless to discipline, do not indulge, do not slack off, let the children really benefit from learning.
Five
Suffering from poor
Read an article named "rich and powerful son in desperately, poor but rich raise out of the spendthrift" article, the truth, have the same feeling.
He worked harder than his peers in spite of his rich pedigree. He didn't give himself a day off in college, taking eight courses while others took four in a semester.
As a result, he not only became MIT's youngest master's degree in finance, but also won the British Mathematical Olympiad gold medal for five consecutive years.
On the contrary, the situation of poor students is worrying:
There are parents who leave all the best to their children despite the ordinary family conditions, thus raising a prodigal son.
Some parents indulge their children unconditionally, do everything for their children, and as a result raise imbeciles.
Bai Yansong once said:
"Today's parents are too spoilt to let their children eat even the slightest bit of hardship."
Let the child eat the pain of poverty, eat the pain of life, he will know how difficult life is, how hard they need to work.
The real "rich raise", is not to give children infinite material satisfaction, but in the spirit of training children to become independent, strong, self-cultivation, learned people.
Six
Adhere to the bitter
As a parent, we all know that we will have regrets as adults.
Regret that he did not learn a specialty, so that after growing up ordinary;
I regret that I did not insist on studying hard, so that I could not live the life I want when I grow up.
Adhere to the bitter, must let the child eat.
Let children learn to persist, not to let them to bear the pain of flesh, but to experience the process of racing with their own;
Not to make them must be successful, but learn to do anything, stick to it is victory.
To teach a child to persist is to teach him to be enthusiastic about things, to have goals, to have visions, and to be willing to persist no matter what difficulties or setbacks he meets.
There are always regrets in life, which can only be resolved by persistence.
True happiness is the result of fighting.
If you have not experienced deep pain, you will not experience full of joy.
On the road of education, the most shouldn't be lazy parents, the most shouldn't indulge is the child.
Insist on the insist, is the biggest responsibility for the child.
Seven
Failure of the bitter
In nine out of ten cases, there are more times when you lose than when you win.
Low-level parents will only blame the child, making the child timid, for fear of being scolded to become cringe.
High-level parents teach their children not only how to succeed, but how to fail.
There are always ups and downs on the road to growth. Parents must let their children learn to eat the bitterness of failure, because it is the good medicine for growth.
The mind polished by setbacks will become stronger; The life that has been washed and trained by failure will become more gorgeous.
Ouyang Xiu, a scholar in the Song Dynasty, once said, "Difficulties come from seeing talent, not just having it."
The more in the face of difficulties, the more can find a person's talent, can brave to meet the wind and waves of life, to open up a wider road of life.
People live a lifetime, now do not suffer, will suffer in the future; Now suffer for a while, now live for a lifetime.
Here, I hope all parents understand:
Only let the child go through the pain of the experience, the child can be transformed.
For the sake of the child's future, let him grow up.