Being a first-time step-parent comes with both rewards and challenges. It can be overwhelming to think that you have to present yourself as a parent with authority, but at the same time be a fun and loving friend to the little ones. Learning to live with a new family takes time and good communication, so be patient! Remember, children adapt as much as you!
Follow these 5 essential tips for successful mother-in-law:
Know that it takes time
Keep in mind that you are building a new relationship and not trying to replace an old one. As with any new relationship, it takes time to get to know each other, so don't try to force anything. Keep your expectations realistic (like expecting the child to love you overnight) and allow them time to develop.
Work with your partner
Respect and support your partner's decisions about their children. If they need family time, don't insist on coming. Young people may need to voice their thoughts and frustrations about new lifestyles - let them know you are ready for open discussions anytime. It sends them the message that you are listening and trying to understand where they are coming from.
When it comes to discipline, work with your partner on any issues without imposing your own set of rules, as they are used to their parents' set of rules. Also be consistent with your approach and the treatment of all children.
Create new traditions
When two families come together to live together in one house, it's a new chapter for everyone. Creating new traditions that everyone can enjoy will create a stronger bond between family members. Ask everyone to present their ideas - children will especially appreciate having their ideas heard.
Develop a relationship with former partners
It may not be easy for everyone, especially at first. But accept that your partner's “ex” is still in your life (as well as your “ex”, especially if you have kids together). Never speak badly of them in front of the youngest and always be flexible with the visit and return times.
Respect children's privacy
If you have children who will be living with your partner's children, it is important that they have privacy, especially if they will be sharing a bedroom. Make sure everyone has some alone time in the room.
Follow these essential tips for your mother-in-law's success for a harmonious family relationship!