Don't repeat your talking

Once there is a person with such a character in social situations, no matter what person will feel nerve-racking. They are careless and careless, and they talk a lot. They can't see any logical connection between what they say.

They don't know what they're talking about, why they say it, and what they should do when they meet people. Such people tend to be kind-hearted and harmless, but they just can't stand it.

Talking in social situations is a weakness in character anyway. It makes people nervous, bored and rudely interrupts: "Shut your mouth!" Therefore, some people put forward a humorous assumption, suggesting that people with this kind of personality weakness imagine that they are making international long-distance calls when speaking, and you must pay for every minute of speaking.

This is a reasonable imagination, you are wasting other people's time. And once you really think so, then you will definitely know what you are going to say and why you want to say it.

As for what to do, it is clear that the only principle is to be concise and lively. From any point of view, no one is willing to pay for his own nonsense. Therefore, this proposal is an effective method.

The problem is that people who talk a lot often feel that what they say is rich in meaning, and they don't realize their weaknesses. There are two old friends who haven't seen each other for many years, and they have been looking forward to each other for a long time.

As a result, one of them brought his warm and cheerful new wife. From the beginning, the wife monopolized the whole conversation, gushing and talking one by one about something that she thought was funny and interesting.

Out of politeness, the two men listened silently and occasionally looked at each other awkwardly. When they parted, the wife stood on the doorstep waving gloves and said happily, "Byebye!"

She felt that she had spent a meaningful evening, met her husband's friends and had a happy conversation. However, the two men still knew nothing about their old friends after many years of separation, and cursed the woman who was too cheerful, even her husband.

Psychologists list seven typical characteristics for people with this character: interrupting others' conversations or grabbing other people's words, hoping that the whole conversation will focus on "I". Because of his distraction, he repeatedly asked others to repeat the topic he had said, or he did not remember saying it and repeated it again and again. Continuous expression of one's opinions like pouring shells makes one feel too enthusiastic to cope with. Explain a phenomenon casually, rashly judge, so as to show that you are an expert, and then talk endlessly.

Speaking is illogical, making it difficult to grasp the intention, and easily jumping from one topic to another, sometimes it is inexplicable. Inappropriately emphasize some things that are irrelevant to the theme, ramble and make big platters. I feel that what I say is more interesting than what others say.

All these are common faults of those who talk and talk, and often cause embarrassing scenes in social interaction. You might as well compare it. As long as you have any of the seven rules, you need to improve your conversation skills.

Remember, it is not enough to have full enthusiasm for conversation. Unskilled conversation will only bring troubles to people, but will not enhance friendship. If you regard this as an insignificant little fault, you are very wrong.

Here are a few concrete steps to remind you to pay more attention to skills and express more clearly in conversation.

Since it's a conversation, you should listen to what others are saying first, and remember it carefully, lest you ask questions again after three minutes, or that what you say doesn't match what others say. Listening is sometimes more important than speaking.

Here are a few concrete steps to remind you to pay more attention to skills and express more clearly in conversation.

Since it's a conversation, you should listen to what others are saying first, and remember it carefully, lest you ask questions again after three minutes, or that what you say doesn't match what others say. Listening is sometimes more important than speaking.

Absent mind, missing words and poor memory will make the conversation long, protracted and boring. Imagine, if you are talking, someone always asks, "What were you talking about?" What a disappointing thing that is.

Pay attention to the reaction of others when talking, including whether they are enthusiastic and interested in what you say. Talking is like a driver driving across an intersection. Always pay attention to the traffic lights.

When others look cold and yawn, you still keep talking, which is tantamount to violating traffic rules. If others are interested in what you say, they will respond positively and encourage you to continue. Otherwise, it's a red light. You have to brake quickly. Enough is enough.

If you want to open your mouth, you must speak in order.The most troubling thing is the lack of organized conversation habits, which can easily lead people into the mud puddle of nonsense, nonsense, digression and repetition.Speaking in an unorganized and illogical way is a manifestation of unclear thinking and no one is willing to deal with him.

Don't take "I" as the biggest word in the conversation, but guide the interlocutors to participate actively.Even if you have to say a lot, it won't be too long.It's a learned art to put me in the right place when talking to people. You're not a great man. You don't need to live in the center of the earth.