When two people are together, the most important thing is to feel grounded and peaceful inside, and get pleasure and happiness from it.
All the happiness that comes through freshness, passion and romance is ultimately only passing, fleeting and only largely satisfies the unrequited desire behind it.
One of the main reasons why the love stage is so wonderful is that each other is only involved in the romantic part of each other's lives.
Here there is no firewood, pots and pans, family chores, pensions and small and so on trivial, there is no conflict of interest and reality, it is all something for people to enjoy.
But if you are not happy in the relationship stage, countless conflicts and contradictions, really should pay attention to it.
Purely because of the heart and reluctance to go on, even if married, the next days are only more painful and sad, like a headlong plunge into the river.
Want to improve the emotional situation of the two people through marriage, unrealistic, after all, marriage is just a change in the way of life.
Two people's outlook and character need to rub together, since the choice can not easily give up, but, in your willingness to change yourself, has also changed their premise, the situation is still not better.
The fundamental reason is one, in this relationship, just you love each other, and the other just listen to and accept your love.
Some people have an impact on your life that is so long that you can't even think about it, which is true, including invisibly influencing your decisions, thoughts and emotions.
So what is it like to be in a relationship with an older woman?
The following is in the first person, telling the real experience of a person who has come through.
1、The two of us met through work, I am also considered her customers, right, the first meeting, I feel she is a pretty cute girl, asked her how old she is, she returned to me 29.
When we got together later, we learned that she had lied about her age and was actually 31 years old.
In fact, the process of pursuing her, is also considered quite stifling, making people uncomfortable, and found that she is a person who is not very good at expressing their emotions, nothing to say, the performance of very passive, often let me have a kind of hard swing a fist, hitting the cotton feeling.
The relationship was somehow established through my soft and hard work.
As for the experience that this relationship brings me, first of all, I feel that she does not know how to share, as if I have always been the one to tell her about my experience, feelings and self, with me alone holding the relationship between the two people.
She is very defensive of people, and will not easily reveal her secrets, and she is not willing to share even her daily life, and in her own words, it is all trivial and unnecessary.
So get together for most of the year, we have never established a close relationship, can clearly feel the distance between.
Once in a while, she can express her emotions with you, never in a conversation, a sentence, it's not like falling in love with someone.
If the two of us are in conflict, she will not look for the problem, and will not solve the problem, resulting in little to no heart-to-heart communication regarding the problem. Only you to guess her mind, she will not take the initiative to find you to talk, moving to take inappropriate to say things.
The kind of attitude that you hold is that if you take the initiative, you can talk about it, if you do not take the initiative, the breakup is broken up.
But a chat she also said the reason, she said because she has too low self-esteem, and feel that this is the main reason for their own single to now.
Then a person is used to living alone, used to no one cares, and do not need to come to care, forget that there is my existence, and I am always concerned about her.
At the same time is also a person over the "alone", do what I do, think without considering the feelings of others, has been living in their own world, they can not come out, others can not enter.
To sum it up, she is used to living alone, it seems that she does not need much affection, just want to find someone to marry, while walking a relationship process. In her opinion, falling in love, getting married, these are not as important as her watching TV, or must not be because of falling in love, disrupting their original comfortable life.
The last thing is that her subjective consciousness is very strong, easy to misunderstand the meaning of others, and do not listen to your explanation, obviously talking is not that meaning, she thinks you are that meaning.
In general, this relationship brings its own experience, on a word, tired, because she is too arguing, as well as there are people can not understand the passive.