HOW TO OVERCOME STRESS OR DEPRESSION FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCED

We all know that STRESS or DEPRESSION is the biggest enemy we have in life. Having it is a hell. Most people who experiencing it are those people who became very successful in a snap but then disappeared in a second. They don't know how to handle a problem so the ending is to kill their selves just to end the problem.

I'm pretty sure I am one of the fighters and wanted to share to everyone the reason and how got rid of it.

Here is my story

I got pregnant to a baby boy and it was my dream because in my family that i grew up with, we are 3 siblings and all girls. My mom and step dad really wanted to have a baby boy but they failed. I have 3 brothers from my biological dad with another woman but they're living far away from me so I was really really happy when I found out that I'll be having a baby boy. Carrying him in my womb was really a dream come true. I took care of him for 8 months, had a lot of plans for him, dreaming of breastfeeding him and many more things that a woman and a mom wanted to have and do for their child.

But he came out too early at 8 months. He died and did not make it. He tried to survive and fought for his life for 5 days in NICU and seeing him in pain was killing me until one day, he just gave up and died. I was crying to death and burst in tears but I knew I can't take back his life anymore.

After what happened, my hubsand took me home. I just stayed in my bedroom all day, sitting in the corner and never wanted to talk to anyone. I felt the pain again then cried to sleep without eating any food. I kept blaming my self from losing my baby boy. It went again and again for 5 days specially when the night is coming, when the sun is going down from day time and the only thing that I can see from the window is the sky and some banana leaves from the back of our apartment.

As days goes by, the same routine as I got home from the hospital, crying etc. never helped me ease the pain, it became worst when I even thought of just killing my self but I just kept praying to God to just give me more strength to face my problem and help me from what I am facing right at that moment. My head was even numbing and my eyes are swollen and really was in pain. I went to pee in the toilet and accidentally saw my self in the mirror and was surprised to see that I lose a lot of weight. I looked thin and I was very ugly.

Then after seeing my self in the mirror.
I took my cellphone and checked my facebook.
I decided to write something in my facebook wall about what I felt on that very moment. I was crying while writing something. Good thing, zoe, my daughter was always there beside me and was trying to talk to me all the time. I red all of the comments and mesaages they sent me.

I was holding on to those messages and words of people who really concern and love me.
I kept them in my mind.
Until one day i started eating a little and playing with zoe a little. Although the pain was still there I was able to start and do a little things inside the house. But after doing some things, I sit down again and cry, thinking about the times when I was still pregnant then cry and more cry again. More blaming and blaming my self over and over again. So one day I decided to go out, I told my self that it was enough, the crying and the blaming. I stood up, took a bath, looked for a good dress to wear and go for a gig with a guitarist that I was chatting with to join their gig once I recovered. Then that was the very start of me, fighting my depression. Although sometimes I was still crying about it until now, I can say that it is not worst or let's say not worse anymore. I'm very sure that I already recovered from depression. :)

STEPS TO OVERCOME A DEPRESSION

1. Pray, that is the very first move you have to do. Don't ever forget to ask help to HIM.
   We maybe can't see him listening to us when talking to him but I'm very sure his listening.

2. Cry it out. Crying will help us release the pain.
   Cry as much as you can. It is better than to hide the tears inside. It is making you more depress if you stop your self from doing it.

3. Talk to some friends or family, even not in person. Talking to them through phone or chatting with them online will be a big help.
   Don't be quiet about what you feel. It is better for you to voice it out. Don't become selfish about it. Advices from people who loves you will be a big help.

4. Listen and take their advices. Put them all together and keep them in mind. Always apply their words to yourself. So once you feel the depression again, think of what they said or adviced to you.

5. Eat and drink. Eat and drink not only make your body strong but even your mind. Without eating and drinking while in depression will make your body weak together with your mind. Not taking food and water to your body will make you think too much and will cause you hallucinations and seeing things that normal person aren't experiencing.

6. Do something. Doing something will divert you from your problem. Doing something even at home will still help you forget your depression.

And last but not the leased

1. If number 6 will not work for you, dress up and go out. Go window shopping even if you don't feel like doing it. Going out and seeing people and many things will make you forget your problem and your mind will become busy. Avoid a quiet place or being alone. It will make you think too much again.

These are the steps I did to overcome my depression. I did it and I know most of us can do it too. This is a big big help to everyone. It will not make any difference ti anyone of us once depression is triggered. It will hit anyone of us. We are human being with feelings. Just take my advice and steps on how to overcome it then you will know. Just let your self believe that If I did it, you will, too. So good luck and hope this will leave a knowledge to everyone. GOD BLESS TO US AND MORE POWER MY FELLOW STEEMIANS!

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