So lets say for arguments sake that the US military stopped all of its foreign activities. No more bombing, bringing stability anywhere, just a purely defensive force that stayed within our borders. You say love is the only solution, what happens when ordinary citizens, with love in their heart, try to spread the message of gender equality to a country that is staunchly against it? When that same country views our media, our culture, our way of life as threatening the fabric of their society, won't they still respond, even violently, when they feel their beliefs are being threatened?
Obviously our military intervention can be the direct cause of retaliatory violence against us, but I believe that people will always find a reason to justify their terrorism.