The box we are Trapped in !

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What happens in society is that we're clouded by the noise. The noise of family expectations. The noise of our parents. In this society we believe that, in a family there could either be a doctor, a lawyer or a failure. Those were my three options as well. Anything else would just count me as a failure. I'm standing up in front of you all as a failure. We focus so much on life and WHAT WE WANT TO BE as opposed to WHO WE WANT TO BE. We've always been told that life and jobs and careers are like boxes and containers. There's only a finite number of options. You can decide right now that, I don't want to be DEFINED BY THIS BOX, I don't want to be defined by this container. I don't want to feel that if only I live in this container, then I'll be successful.

One thing I've been observing is that achievements or ambitions are broken down into five stages.

Learn
Experiment
Perform
Struggle
Thrive

Right now the challenge with all of those is that we want to thrive all the time, we want to be in the thrive zone. We want to be winning those awards, getting those views, getting those messages, getting those likes all the time. We want to be noticed and recognized as much as possible.

But actually if we took a step back, we realize that we need to be learning. We need to be experimenting. And so what happens is that we get confused by where we are and so our expectation of what we want is totally blurred. We start chasing a false reality and that's why we find that we get disappointed and confused when we know we should actually be performing, we actually need to do, we actually need to act rather than chasing that thriving feeling all the time.

So next time you think things aren't working out, next time you feel you're not on the right track step back and ask yourself,"Should I be learning, should I be experimenting, should I be thriving, should I be performing or should I be struggling". And that one comes around a lot more than you can imagine

So Long....!