Can't Find Love

in time •  7 years ago 

Can't find love? It is the fault of these 5 attitudes.

More and more singles in Italy and abroad cannot find love and in particular, the soul mate. You want times to change and that by now everyone has become more demanding, but in today's world it is really difficult to find love. Maybe because some people have not yet noticed that it could be the cause of some negative attitudes, but good luck is also fundamental to finding love, the right place, the right moment and yet, most of the time to know the soul mate is important to have the right mental predisposition and not make a series of mistakes that prevent you from letting yourself go into a story.

Even according to Istat research released at the end of 2016, the number of singles has more than doubled in the last twenty years, reaching a record number of about 8 million people. According to recent studies, there are more than 33 million singles in Europe who make appointments and meet, of these 8.7 million are Italians, and it is here that the Love Economy sector has reached 6.5 billion euros. One of the first problems of the singles in search of love is therefore to unravel themselves in a real jungle of offers in the web world. In fact, very often when you make mistakes, you rely more and more on the web and run into scams and delusions that block in the long run.

Here are the 5 negative attitudes that prevent you from finding love:

  1. SY YOU EXHIBITION: It will seem strange but to be tough and demanding doesn't pay off! Too often to look for something better you lose sight of everything else and maybe even some possible claimant papable. In the case of women, if some are satisfied with crumbs, others make the mistake of waiting for the perfect man who will never arrive. There are no perfect men but just and good men with whom you can hold your hand.

  2. YOU INDIPENDENT PROVISIONS AND SPAVENTS THE PRETENDENTS: Being dependent on your loved one is wrong, but getting used to life alone is also very wrong. Especially for women who want to find a man it is difficult in this way. Too independent women risk expelling the right man with wrong attitudes and superiority.

  3. SYNDROME OF THE AZZURRO PRINCIPLE (for women): The all cute and gallant blue prince doesn't exist put you in your head well! However, there are some fun men who are a bit tricky but who will make your life cheerful and sparkling!

  4. THE AUTOSTIME POSITION OF CERTO HAVE NOT HELP: If appearing beautiful, strong and independent to yet another power does not pay, it certainly doesn't even help to be pessimistic and look at everything in a negative way. Even if you feel unattractive and out of place it will certainly not help. In fact, negativity is felt even from afar and makes the pretenders run away.

  5. FIND A HOBBY FAVORISHING NEW KNOWLEDGE: A hobby is the key to regaining self-confidence and being able to cultivate yourself as a person. Passionate about something you like and make you feel good and you will see that it will make you more relaxed and empathic with people. You might find the man you like thanks to a hobby: having things in common makes conversation easier and makes you immediately available to know the other person and listen to him/her.

  6. SENSE OF HUMORISM: With touch and kindness you always leave something good to the other who rejoices in the heart and will not wait to see you again. Cheerfulness is one of the fundamental elements. Everyone wants to know a cheerful person with a high sense of humor, love must be joy and not conflict and sorrow.

  7. VUOI READ SINGLE: But do you really want to love again? This is a fundamental pro question because if your heart is closed there will be no right person to hold. Nothing bad to be ready yet, the important thing is to take note of it and wait for the most appropriate moment.

However, if in love there are no rules, even at the beginning of a new story it happens to put in place some wrong behaviours that often cause the relationship to break. For example, one of the basic rules to follow in the first few weeks of a new course is: Go slowly! Enjoying the present and knowing the other for what it is, without idealizing it too much is the first step to plant the roots for a stable and lasting relationship. It is also important not to depend too much on breastfeeding and not to reveal everything of you immediately. Go there slowly with the sensitivity. Another mistake that is made, especially when you are insecure and in need of affection and attention, is always saying yes! Never always say yes!

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You definitely spoke to hearts and I couldnt be left out. I would like to read this again.
Sometimes I feel I'm the problem but I dream of a better to morrow. I wish this this blue charming prince you mentioned was true for a 👸 princess.
Point 5&6 is so true considering #6 is kind of contagious. You find so much joy in even greater joy. Sometimes the smallest light(joy) shines so bright. I hate it when I wonder if I'll truly find the love I dream of.
Guess I have to stop dreaming and live my life. Enjoy a hobby.....and who knows, what I desire might find me.😊
Nice work bruv.