I’m half blind because there is sunscreen in my eye: the vacationer’s dilemma. I haven’t been on a vacation in a year, since the last time we made the drive from the Far South into the Deep South—two distinctively different cultures, despite the word “south” in both. We enjoy the culture clash as we visit my eighty-eight year old grandma.

Leaving the water for the mountains.
It has been a year since we drove along the same highways, looking at the white puffy clouds and the soft blue sky contrasting starkly with the humanness of all those other travelers. If I had that fictional case of amnesia, I would know that I grew up in a combination of city and country. When I look out at overpasses on the interstate at the mixture of traffic and trees, I feel at home.
Last year I had a bit more of a taste of traffic and trees than I signed up for. The whole incident has a mysterious cloud over it, like part of a story—like something that was meant to be. Maybe somethings are meant to be, as I certainly have no explanation for them.
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Through-the-window photography.
My husband, the kids, and I were traveling through Georgia on our way home. We both were in an unusually chatty mood, having a lovely conversation that lasted for a couple hours. Both of us are normally very oriented toward the vehicle’s functionality. We are both the sort of people to look at the gauges frequently, and that screen on modern cars in the middle of the dash makes it even easier to do so. Oddly, neither of us did. We were in a trance. Also oddly, neither of us heard the ding of the low gas light turning on. Neither of us saw the “miles to empty” estimation plastered on the little screen on the dash - until I happened to look down and saw it said “zero miles”. Even stranger, the exit we intended to stop at for lunch, full of gas stations, was one mile away.
“Shit,” was all I had time to get out before the engine died. We coasted to the side of the interstate as I immediately had flashbacks to my personal injury paralegal days. I saw what happens to cars that are parked on the shoulder of the interstate. A semi-truck going eighty miles per hour does horrific damage. My husband was calling road-side assistance while I was anxiously picking at my fingernails, waiting for the opportunity to get us out of that vehicle and out of the reach of traffic.
Despite the bad things that seemed to come together that resulted in us running out of gas, there were some unusual positive ones. Next to the shoulder of the interstate was a ditch, above it was a barbed wire fence. There was a break in that fence right where we had coasted off—the only break visible into the distance. It was August and the sun was blasting down on us, a ninety-five degree Georgia afternoon. There were no large trees along the ditch, where we could stay easily within site of the van, except for the one large pine tree that was right next to us. It provided just enough shade to keep us from the worst of the weather. I grabbed our bag of snacks and the two canisters of water I had and I hurried my babies up the ditch to our pine tree picnic to await the tow truck.
The Deep South takes a lot of stereotype bullying. The north likes to imply that the south is stupid. Indirectly, they make fun of their fervor for morality. In the south there seems to be a lot more “back woods” kinds of folks, which are easy targets to city dwellers. The ways of life are so different. If I had to breakdown on the side of the interstate in either the north or the south, I’d pick the south. I am innately suspicious of people. I assume there is somewhere between a 10 to 50 percent chance every stranger that approaches me is a serial killer. I am probably a product of my society, but skepticism is in my nature too. That said, I lower those odds in the Deep South. Some of those famous manners of southern hospitality do linger.
So, we were waiting for our savior - the tow truck driver with the gas can. My husband was growing frustrated with him, because despite us knowing exactly where we were, something had gotten lost in translation between the insurance company and the tow truck company. He called us when he was twenty miles north from us, wondering where we were. Meanwhile, we sat under our pine tree that was next to a dirt road. The road connected to a small trailer park. In the hour we sat there, four different people stopped and asked if we needed help. One man offered to take us back to his house, or to sit in his air conditioned vehicle. There was absolutely no chance I was going to do that with my children, but for the record, I only estimated an eight percent chance he was a serial killer. Another man stopped by and gave us six cold water bottles—the good old Deep South.
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Through-the-moving-window photography.
Then, the tow truck driver showed up. A very large, burly man sauntered out of his truck. He probably weighed the equivalent of four of me. He had a scruffy, long beard that may have had food in it. His accent was thick and heavy sounding. He looked like a stereotype a northern could do a lot of work with, and he also may have been a bit irked by the wild goose chase he had been sent on. Meanwhile, I had been nervously considering exactly how fast I could get the children in the van and buckled into their car seats, should something ominous happen at that moment. I was trying to keep things out of fate’s hands to the best of my ability. I think I had them in and buckled in less than a minute—truly a record.
I sat down in the front passenger seat to strap myself in when someone leaned into the driver’s seat to try the engine. I thought it was my husband, so I turned to look at him without censoring any of the honesty on my face. I must have looked very stressed—physically and emotionally. Instead of my husband, it was the tow truck driver. He looked my face over intently for an instant, and then said in that thick, deep, far from friendly accent: “It’s okay Ma’am. We’re goin to get you home.”
And I completely believed him. Everything was okay. Thank God for tow truck drivers.
First of all your photos are amazing...especially the rain one. Secondly, I am with you about serial killers...I think like that as well. Maybe too many episodes of Criminal Minds.
I used to be very suspicious of strangers when my kids were under my charge but now not so much. In fact I think I have lost my radar and my husband makes fun of me bc I can be a bit gullible or naive.
Your tow truck driver thankfully missed your terrified of him body language and thot you were just an anxious mom. lol.....yeeesh.
Good story!
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I wonder if people on other continents have that serial killer fear, or is it mostly us North Americans? I didn't really get that vibe when I was in Europe.
I can imagine I will chill out about it once I don't have to worry about the kids. My radar may break too. My husband has been known to pick up a hitchhiker (the serial-killer phobia's biggest faux paus), so I guess he's not going to be reeling me in. This could be bad ;)
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It makes for really creative stories....right? lol
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Good photos! I am with @countrygirl and you about serial killers...
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Thank you. So there is three of us in the know! :)
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Eh... Why the heck you have sunscreen in your eye?
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You never rubbed your eye after your face is all greased up with sunscreen? And then walked about with an ultra sensitive eye that can't tolerate being open in the sun? And your one eye is closed and tears stream down your face and everyone looks at you like you either have something contagious or are emotionally distraught? I've done that lots of times. But I also have big eyes.
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Ehhh... nope. Never done that. Im ultra careful when it comes to my eyes... don't know why, I just can't stand having anything touching or screwing my eyes, I freak out when something like that happens. Also, I have big eyes too! Hi 5!
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You come by your anxiety and skepticism honestly. That is pretty much a family trait on your paternal side way farther back than either of our dads, lol.
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I feel like Grandpa was a fly-by-the-seat of his pants kind of guy, but stealthy enough to have been a step ahead of any would-be serial killers. He's like the super hero of grandpa's, although I don't think he was all that invested in saving the world. An interesting character...
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Oh yes, he for certain was! He definitely was worldly enough to have a good dose of skepticism about life. Once Grandpa told me when I was about 9 at most and fretting over a ghost story, “ You do not need to worry about ghosts. It is not dead people you need to worry about. It is the live ones that can hurt you.” Which lead to a lecture about keeping your guard up, rapists in alleys etc. That was a lot to think about at 9 but as frightening as it was, it was also surprisingly helpful. I have never forgotten it, I was no longer worried about ghosts, and it helped me to be wary of my surroundings, and not be too trusting of strangers. Any anxiety etc mostly came from Grandma’s side.
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Excellent advice. I'd liked to have met him.
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