Travel Through People: “Am I Helpless?”

People tend to go places for experiences, to see beautiful sceneries, to learn and to expand their perspective, and there’s nothing wrong with that for I would love to travel too. But sometimes to achieve this you just need People. By enlarging your circle of friends and meeting new people you can definitely go places.

Travel with me through people . From time to time I’ll be writing about people that I met or will meet along the way.

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NAME: *****
AGE: 39 years old
NATIONALITY: Filipino
(Met her in Abu dhabi, UAE)

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“When you grew up in a family that provides you with everything, you might think that it could be the best thing in the world, but its not. More often it makes you feel helpless.

So when I had the chance—I married—got pregnant.

I broke the social norms by being the provider of my family, not just my own family but also our extended family, by extended family I mean my husband’s family. Don’t get me wrong It was actually great at first. Everyone was trying to please each other. As for me, I tried to provide them with all the things that they might need. Because for me, it is another chance to prove that I’m not helpless.

As years goes by I noticed that their whole family depends on me solely. Whether it be food, drug maintenance, hospital bills, transportation, rent and a lot more. I am not bragging or trying to show to their faces what I’ve done for them. But I had reached my limit. What displeases me is the thought that these people can still work for themselves but they chose not to. They’d rather be pitied on, and be contented with whatever it is that was being given to them. In short, they chose to be helpless.

I came to realize two things. First, it was never wrong to provide for someone especially if it was for your loved ones or for yourself. People tend to do this all the time and oftentimes they call it Acts of Service.
And Second, if you were the person that was being provided and cared for— just like me before—you should know that it’s okay to feel the feeling of helplessness. Don’t worry too much, don’t be too hard on yourself. What you can do is to tell them how and what you really feel ( and you might be surprised how they can be very supportive of you) or think of something that you can do to prove to them that you can really stand on your own. (just don't resort to sudden marriage, trust me I know!)

In addition, I would like to emphasize that it was never okay to be a sluggard. Please don’t be a leech who will cling and suck empty those people who help you.

for even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.

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