True-Self: Can Someone Lose Themselves When They Have The Need To Please Others?

in true-self •  7 years ago  (edited)


One might say that there are two worlds: the inner world and the outer world. Regarding the inner world, it refers to what is going on inside and happens when the outside world refers to what happens outside.
Perfect balance
Nevertheless, this does not mean that the inner world is separated from the external world; Inside the external influence and vice versa. And for all, to express its true self, it will be necessary for them to have a strong connection with what is happening in them.

In the meantime, it will also be important that you have a good connection with your outside world. What will this do is allow them to incorporate new information and connect to their peers.
relationship
We will then have the opportunity to put oneself in other people who can form strong bonds with others. What happens in them will be important, but it will not forget what is happening around them.
If a relationship is not a two-way process, regardless of whether we had the opportunity to vote on what happens to another person. Thus, by so, can be extended to others and fill the gap between them.


Experience
Therefore, if you are too interested in what happens in them, it will make them self-centered. Your needs are the only thing that counts, and you will not have much time for others.
Of course this will force many people, and since a very lonely life could be. Or they have the people in their lives who are too happy to focus on their needs, and that is likely to prove that they are not value.

unlimited
Not being able to put in, you'll most likely tend to go over others. Your priority will be to meet your needs, and it will not matter about your behavior which affects you around you.
Every time they get what they want, they will be happy to suffer what causes many people. After someone has spent time with them, it may take a little time to recover.
Win-lose
They gave something to that person, but nothing has been returned to them. Then it might be in your interest to make sure you do it again.
And if there is something you regularly encounter, it might be a good idea for them to know why this is happening. What they find is that they do not feel comfortable with their own needs and they are no limits, among others.


Another experiment
On the other hand, if you are too concerned about what is happening around them, it can ignore what is happening in them. The needs and feelings of others will be all that counts.
Then there is a chance that you will have many people in your life but you can still feel cut off. What could prevent people from your life from realizing what happened is that we could act like everything is right.
The other end
Of course, we will have the tendency not to go on the other side; However, what you are using is that you can walk on others. They may find it easy to listen to the feelings of others and pay attention to their needs.
They may find that they feel comfortable after being placed at someone else's calling, and there will be lots of positive feedback from others. We neglect ourselves, but they get something back.
Out of balance
Although this behavior can be perceived as better than ignoring other people's needs, it will always cause problems. By focusing on what is happening around you, it will not be possible to have them their own life.
Your need to please others will rarely take your life and your true self, if at all, will never see the light of the day. It will be crucial that they focus more on what is happening in them and less about what is happening around them.
Closer Look
Behave, however, perhaps this way they kept them alive at the time, and that is why they might behave in this way, which feels comfortable. The part of them who want to live their own lives is torn and some of them come to their survival for others to be taken.
What can prove this is that they have been abused and / or neglected in their childhood. If they did not focus on the needs of caregivers, their survival would be threatened.
awareness
The years have passed, but it continues so many years to define his life. It is believed that one developed when they were younger and could be traumatized.
If you say more and you want to change your situation, you must work with a therapist or healer. This gives them the opportunity to heal ..

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@beulahlandeu
Beautiful writeup!Thanks for sharing.