You do not understand Japanese life, country and culture. Today I will help you learn about it. This is my feeling. Maybe it's right for me to think that it's wrong with you guys.
Japanese cold, emotionless
This is the feeling of many friends when coming to Japan. The Japanese never invite you home, do not come to your house, talk intimately and justly. They keep and are very polite to you but often refuse any invitation. This is not just the Japanese, the Americans, the Americans. Do not blame them cold, emotionless.
Because: They are living in a very busy industrial society and they are INDIVIDUAL individuals. They have private space from small and do not want you to "penetrate" into it. Do not receive guests at home, except close friends. This is the opinion of an INDEPENDENT living which advanced countries forged for children at an early age. Therefore, they often do not rely on their families to live very LIFE. The Japanese are not coldly insensitive to the industrial society that creates such people. If you go to the countryside you will find them very friendly as well.
You are forgotten, not respected
You have to become familiar with advanced society in which each individual lives independently and must be independent. Do you intend to live on somebody (family)? If it were me, I would focus on my work and my goals. There is nothing "forgotten" here, unless you yourself forget who you are, what purpose.
I see society that DOES NOT MAKE MONEY WHO like Japan and European countries are GREAT societies. Of course, it is a peaceful life, not a living. Want to monumental, you have to dare to adventure, there are more TOPIC to CIRCLE.
The Japanese work a lot of time.
If you go to work in Japan, you may have to stay until 9-10pm. I know some people are recruited to a large software company in Japan, take the plane in the night to the place is early in the morning, the idea of resting scared to go directly to the company until 10 pm night as if no what's great Pretty shock.
Japan is like that, working day and night. But not every company, choose the company that suits you. I still go to work 5 hours to go back, but no one asked to stay. Many times I work at home to save money for lunch.
And a lot of things ....
Superordinate relationship - subordinate (sempai - kouhai) stress, complex
In Japan, the former is called sempai, the latter is called kouhai, for example the same in a club but the first is sempai, the latter is kouhai.
In Japanese society, it is generally assumed that kouhai must listen to sempai, and this relationship is quite harsh. If you go to a company, the first person has the right to tell you.
You can not "argue" otherwise it will be repressed. This relationship is not as open and equitable as other countries, so you either have to face the fierce competition or have to dodge the harsh ones. Many people who can not afford to leave the job are.
Bullying, bullying, and hostility
Japanese society has a problem of "bullying" (ijime), that is, many people bully the weakest. Many people commit suicide because of bullying, because they are embarrassed to find themselves separated from the collective and lose all honor.
In companies or organizations, repression is also a headache. Because the Japanese avoid each other's feelings, they rarely express an open attitude or criticize each other, but often it is "hostile" and "bad talk behind".
Actually, this is where the problem is, only because you see so polite Japanese people think they are not, then again "shock culture."
The Japanese do not care about family and parents
It is true that every individual has to live independently and follow the principle of NOTHING. In the US too. Parents come to the children's home, the children must agree to be, and only in the living room. Of course it depends on the family, but in general the family ties in Japan are less attached than in Vietnam. Principle: No one has the right to disturb anyone.
Very tight on money
You should not think of borrowing money from the Japanese. They usually pay every penny and definitely pay you a penny. Their principle is very rigid. When eating out, people usually pay for each person (not "invited") or evenly pay (called "warikan").
