Our fixing ourselves inviolves an internal work of the Holy Spirit applying the finished Work of Jesus to our lives. Many are bound and helpless to help themselves. That is why we are empowered to set the captives free.
When we humble ourselves, don’t shift the blame, and come before God, then we will receive what we need!
I am with you on shifting the blame. One time I heard God say, “bring me solid sin, in exchange I will give you solid righteousness.” This is when we completely own our sin before God and don’t make excuses or shift the blame,
God bless!
Daddy William