Actually I feel like any fear is somehow linked to the fear of death or suffering.
But there are many things that are limiting us so that we cannot really live naturally. I mean we cannot live our true nature, our true selves. You are taught how to behave, you are often trying to follow some rules that are actually not natural for you, be it because of the society or the religion that you may be following. In other words, you may end up living your social role, thinking that it is actually your nature. You may actually believe that you are a manager, down there. But that is not true, that is just your role or occupation.
Another thing is the role you end up playing in the relationship. You think that you should behave like this and that because that is how men and women behave when in relationship. Actually pretty similar to the point above. You are not living your nature, you are doing what seems to be right, but you don't know why, sometimes.
And like this we could continue.
Now we could be asking why we perhaps should not be following all the conventions. This is somehow broader topic, but the short answer is that people suffer when you cannot live their true nature. One of the worst kind of suffering I believe.
@ishy:
Living the deepest desires and listening to the call of the soul. I don't see why that should be rigid and how my comment implies that. I feel exactly the other way around. There is nothing rigid about this, it is about living your life to the fullest.
I am also not saying that this is directly impossible because of what the society is asking us to be doing. I think that we just need to be conscious about keeping the space for ourselves, being in touch with our inner world and what we as individuals feel like doing.
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@ishy
Doesn't have to be anything crazy, I just mean to do what you feel like doing deep inside. If you love dancing, be a dancer. But so many people can tell you that you cannot survive as a dancer, no money and stuff. You can start being afraid. So you may decide to give up and spend the rest of your life dreaming about being a dancer and suffering. This is what I mean. But really, it's just about doing what is deeply meaningful for you.
This is related to being responsible for your own life as well. Living freely means to not hide behind anyone. The more freedom, the more responsibility. The more responsibility you can bear, the more free you can be. When you are sure that you can do anything in the world, why would you listen to others and let them stop you? You know your own path now and you don't need to ask anyone what to do.
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How would you define "true nature"?
It sounds like you are treating it like a rigid, predetermined constant, which I would have to disagree with. In order to exist, you necessarily have to follow some rules - even if you were dropped in the middle of nowhere as a baby with no society to impose limitations on you, you would still come up with some rigid rules that you would not (should not) stray from, e.g. don't poke the bear.
Humans are inherently social beings, and I would argue that our "true self" is not a preset value but rather a more malleable attribute that develops and changes with life experience, which includes our social roles.
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This bit implied to me that you were treating true nature as something rigid that gets overridden by society, but I guess I just misunderstood.
Out of curiosity, could you give some examples of "deepest desires" an individual may have? Not trying to knock your point, just trying to get a better picture of what you mean.
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