Have you ever had trouble with insensitive people around you hurting you at work, in your love life, or in your friendships?
People who always say irritating things in conversation for some reason, people who give advice as they please without regard to my feelings, and people who make nosy remarks without reading the air. ......
I am sure you have all encountered people like this who you think are insensitive.
When there are insensitive people around you, it is hard for both you and those around you to feel bad.
Unfortunately, it is difficult to correct a person's character, so insensitive people are likely to continue to be insensitive.
How should we deal with such insensitive people?
In this issue, we will check out the psychology and characteristics of insensitive people, as well as how to deal with insensitive people who do not consider other people's feelings.
What is the psychology of an insensitive person?
How can an insensitive person who constantly makes some irritating remark be so insensitive?
First, let's take a look at the psychology of insensitive people.
(1) They do not give much thought to the feelings of others
They do not think much about how their words and attitudes affect others.
This is the reason why they are called insensitive; they do not "think about the other person.
Because they act without thinking about the other person, they will continue to annoy the other person without caring if the other person is annoyed.
(2) Basically no offense
Insensitive people act insensitive without any malice in the first place.
Since they do not feel bad, they are not aware that they are doing something annoying to the other person and think that there is no problem.
Therefore, they do not feel remorse even if the other person does not like it.
(3) They do not listen to others very much
Insensitive people do not listen to the advice of others very often.
If a person accepts the advice of others with an open mind, he or she may reflect on it when advised about insensitive behavior and gradually change into a more thoughtful person.
However, if a person does not listen to the advice of others, eventually there will be no one to advise or warn him or her, and as a result, he or she will miss the chance to correct his or her own character.
Six traits common to insensitive people
You want to stay away from insensitive people as much as possible.
The earlier you realize that the person is insensitive, the easier it is to defend yourself.
Let's check what characteristics an insensitive person has.
(1) Rebuking in public
When giving attention to others, it is more effective to do so in the absence of others.
By not being seen by others, you will not hurt them more than necessary, and as a result, the person who was warned will perform afterward.
Reprimanding in public is an action that is done without thinking about the other person, and is a characteristic of an insensitive person.
(2) Saying things that make fun of others
People who are attentive to others will not say things that make someone look foolish.
Also, if you make fun of someone, you will be hurt later when it spreads.
Insensitive people often speak ill of someone in public because they do not pay attention to such things.
(3) Saying brazen things
When there is something you want, you may say, "I want that! without thinking about the other person.
Many people do not like to have their own things taken from them, but they do not mind receiving things that they think others want.
(4) Asking questions that should not be asked
They often ask for zippy questions about things that tend to be taboo to ask, such as income, weight, family structure, etc.
People who cannot think of whether or not it is rude to ask someone lack delicacy.
They are insensitive because they have not learned that it is not good to ask sensitive questions.
(5) Not much caring
They are less likely to notice when people are in trouble, and even if they do, they often ignore it.
This is because they do not want to get involved in troublesome situations, or they are not aware that they are in trouble in the first place.
(6) Expressing what is on the other person's mind
They often express their opinions about things that others are concerned about, such as complaining about the other person's appearance or pointing out his/her personality.
By giving an opinion without reading the atmosphere, the other person is hurt and leaves a rude impression, but insensitive people are unable to think about other people's feelings, so they may speak out of turn.
How to deal with insensitive people
They are there at work and in your personal life, and they are a pain in the ass when you get involved! How do we deal with insensitive people who make us want to scream, "I can't be bothered!
Finally, let's take a look at how to deal with insensitive people to watch out for.
(1) Treat them with detachment
Insensitive people may say more and more irritating things because they do not mean to offend.
However, the more we overreact, the more exhausted we become, even though the insensitive person has done no damage.
If it is in private, you can cut off the relationship, but if it is at work, you can't just ignore it, can you?
It is important not to be overly concerned about it.
(2) Keep your distance from the beginning
This may be difficult if the person is your immediate superior, but if the person is in a neighboring department, it is better to keep your distance from him or her.
Also, when conversing with an insensitive person, it is important to use polite language and to keep your distance from him or her, even verbally, in order to avoid a casual relationship.
(3) Make many allies around you
Even insensitive people may obey only their superiors.
And sometimes the power harassment becomes worse when they become insensitive when dealing with people other than their superiors.
In such cases, if you have many allies around you, you will be less likely to be attacked, and in some cases, you will be protected.
By making many allies of your own, if you can overwhelm the insensitive person with your numbers, you will be in a better position to deal with the situation and will be able to handle it more easily.
If you're being treated badly, one option is to run away
No matter how hard you try, dealing with insensitive people can be a challenge.
If you are being treated so badly by such people in your workplace, you may want to consider transferring or changing jobs.
I have listed some ways to cope with this situation, but running away is another option.
If you are being treated mindlessly by an insensitive person, don't be too patient and try coping strategies or, if you still can't, run away.