Own Thoughts 3: Which is worse, Failing or Never Trying?

notimetospace (58) in writing • 7 years ago (edited)

Introductory Thoughts

It's been so long I've not been writing this series about my own thoughts and perspective towards some random questions, quotes and situations that I'm facing. I knew it was never my talent to be a motivator, a good writer or a good organizer with thoughts. Since it's a platform to write anything as long it's original and real, I think this is a good place to voice out what I can.

"Which is worse, failing or never trying?"

This is one of the most common question that you will get in any public speaking club meeting for their impromptu topics session. I think everyone would be expecting the answer "Not Trying", and wanting to listen the speakers "I am glad that I tried" experiences in their lives. Isn't it boring or somehow... Outdated?

So, few days ago I was attending one Area division contests, and I've listen to few great speeches from great winners from different clubs. I manage to recall some of their answers for the question above.

Kentucky Fried Chicken had failed more than 300 times to achieve the greatest formula for fried chicken. Therefore, hard work and trying again are crucial for a big change.
Realizing that he wasn't doing well in his studies made him to make a choice to try putting more effort led him to achieve a better grade.
Constantly being single led him to not fear the chances that he would take to confess to the girl that he had a crush on, since he was being rejected so many times (such humour got him the first place).

Ever wonder why

Have you ever wonder why people tend to put "never trying" and "failing" together, and set them as a question? The answers are very subjective, depending what situation that you're caught into. While listening to all the speeches, I somehow I felt that the reason to put them together as a question is because there'll be something to lose and there'll be something to gain within that choice of "trying "and "not trying".

What will I lose?

If I tried and fail, I'll lose something that I've been working hard on. Counting the heartbreak that I would be facing after that. I may not be that bold and tough to face what I've lost and drowning into the failures and feeding my own self-esteem.

If I never tried, I'll just lose an opportunity. If it's a minor thing, I am pretty sure that it doesn't bother much. Somehow I believe that if we lose one opportunity, we will create another new opportunity for ourselves. It depends on how crucial that the subject would affect our lives.

What will I gain?

If I tried and fail, I'll gain experience and a lesson to improvise. We humans are very adaptive with changes. I believe that our minds are wise enough to absorb everything we went through, especially tough times.

If I never tried, I'll gain leisure and extra time for doing something matters more. Or, realizing that actually it's not what I am passionate with. I always wish that I could try learning art to pursue my dream to produce fashion. But until this day and this date 2018, I have not been close to anything related to the fashion industry, not to mention, art. I think the art side of the fashion industry isn't my thing now. Now I love to be in the warehousing industry. I am spending time on something that works in my life.

Conclusion

I guess we are smart enough to evaluate which choice is more important to us. If failing may take all of us to nowhere, I rather not trying a single thing. If never trying would bring me guilt for years, I would do what I should do. Everything seems to be pretty easy if we get to realize the cost of our choice, I guess.