It was very refreshing to read this. I needed this. I am sorry you had to go through a relationship like that. I, myself, just got out of a committed relationship with someone who was extremely ego-centric and tried to control my actions. I finally realized I was never accepted or "good enough" as I was. Since the beginning, he had tried to change me in different little ways. Very confusing when you are with someone who identifies as an Anarchist, as he did. I learned a lot from the relationship and would say that I am progressively becoming an Anarchist myself, but developing those ideas for my self was never acknowledged as my own journey. I was never given credit for becoming my own person with my own ideas.. It was always like there was this destination I would eventually arrive at, that destination being his views, and until I got there, I was learning and it was cute. Sorry for the long rant, I guess the Internet is a good plce for that :) Unfortunately, it will take a while to heal, but I am reminded of the beauty in loving myself and being happy in that place. Thank you for that reminder! <3