Let's say life is going on slow and steady. And you are focused on what went wrong. And in that context it is reasonable to say that you have to move towards something that gives you some sort of the security. And that is what decides where you are going to be in end.
Because what you feed in grows. You feed in fear and that grows very badly. And then comes the life where you have to think of the courage which you have to feed which makes you some good comfortable person in what you can do. So in that context I'd say that you have to feed the right things.
Another thing is that life always give you time to rest and pause. Make sure that pause is not too big. I have come to realization that it takes like forever in most of the cases.If worked on the right way it helps out otherwise you have to go through a lot of pain along the way.
That being said, life in duality is not an easy thing. You work around many small problems and then build your case there.