My home state of Kentucky in fact just passed a law that all but requires parents to share custody down the middle. It's literally one of the only things this state government has done right in recent history.
I'm sorry to hear how that all happened, and I know that what I have is incredibly rare. I grew up with my ex wife, and we were able to put pettiness aside for the well being of our son.
I also know that most states will completely fuck over a caring father, then put out statistics about how fathers don't care...