Steemit Engagement Challenge | S14W3 | Parent's Strict Behavior and Children's Mental Health

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We all are children once.

But being an adult. Have you at any point in life thought about the Strictness of parents? Did you ever have a question?

"How does strictness affect children?"

According to me, It is an interesting question that conveys significantly more weight than it could at first appear.

So, Today in this blog post about i am going to talk about that and will try to share my opinion on that. And also being a future doctor it is my responsibility to know and share every detail that is related to our health and mental health.

🙍 What are the Advantages and Disadvantages of Parents' Strict Behaviour?

Let's start by acknowledging a fundamental truth: parenting is no easy feat.

That is a delicate balance, combining loving kindness, sound discipline, and proper guidance.

Many parents opt for strict parenting that consists of high standards and firm rules. However, it raises concerns about its outcomes. So, let's talk about the advantages and disadvantages.

Advantages:

#1. Structure and Discipline:

My parents were strict with me. I am passed with these things because when I was small they told me that "you have to be a doctor". And because of that strictness, I was good in my academics. and that's why I was able to clear the entrance exam, and now a medical student.

So I believe Strictness is an important advantage offered by this type of parenting because it creates a sense of order in a child’s life.

This leads to instilling discipline and creating an important lesson for children about rules and regulations in such environments. As a result, it could lead to better performance in academics as well as strong work ethics during adulthood stages.

#2. Clear Expectations:

Most strict parents set limits and impose strict expectations.

Such clarity helps children be aware of what they are supposed to do like me. And it prevents their brains from being confused while they make decisions.

Disadvantages

#1. Stress and Anxiety:

I also felt that, because when I was a child, I was not aware that they were being strict for my good. And promoting me to be depressed. But u know Parents should also understand this thing "You have to show your children that you care about them."

One research concluded that children who were brought up under an authoritarian style of parenting displayed more symptoms of anxiousness and low self-esteem.

#2. Limited Emotional Development:

Such conditions may affect the emotional development of children when under tight regimes.

Because they are mostly in compliance-oriented environments, they may not acquire skills on how to manage their feelings.

🙍 What Do You Feel If You Were at the Place of Such Children Who Have to Face Strictness?

To be in the shoes of children undergoing severe parenting could just be imagining my world with all my steps guided by rules. And, indeed, I had personally felt that.

A world where going against the grain by an inch can be disappointing and sometimes with repercussions or penalties.

I am sure it would be oppressive at times like suffocating individuality or creativity.

Such pressure to achieve uncompromising standards could be too much for many; indeed it may cause so much fear. It would haunt even the most small decision about something.

🙍 As a Child, What Do You Expect from Your Parents Regarding Their Behavior?

Yes, when I was a child, I expected a combination of love, understanding, and guidelines, from my parents.

I wanted my parent to consider me as people with independent thoughts and feelings to be heard.

I wish to have an atmosphere in which mistakes are perceived as chances of learning. But not a means of punishing people.

🙍 What Are the Negative Effects of Emotional Blackmailing?

Ahh Emotional blackmail.

It is one of the severe forms, that could be used by parents having strict pedagogical principles.

It may affect the child’s psychology and health. This includes emotionally manipulating the child for control purposes. This practice can lead to several issues:

Damaged Self-Esteem: Children who undergo emotional blackmail usually have low self-esteem. These children may come into thinking and assume they lack value. Or that their worth is based on meeting their parent's demands. In my case, During my pre-med, I was just thinking that there is only one carrier "Medicine". All other options are worse. But I was wrong.

Trust Issues: Trust breaks down when a parent engages in emotional blackmail. This may lead the children to believe that love and acceptance are not guaranteed. And psychologically speaking turn can shape their future relationships. T

Mental Health Disorders: Long emotional blackmail may give rise to the development of mental health conditions. like anxiety, depression, and others.

Last words:

I believe that strict parenting might have some benefits.

Like disciplining children and giving them structure striking a balance is essential.

Too much rigidity is not good. especially if combined with psychological coercion, may leave lifelong imprints in the mental sphere of childhood.

However, despite the importance of raising disciplined and responsible children, I believe that our main priority as parents is to develop emotionally healthy and resilient ones. Instead, let us adopt a mixed approach of love, discipline, and consideration for their feelings.

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