If the parents strive to establish good manners and pattern good character in it, they have succeeded in preparing this child for the battle of life, so raising the child on good and good will be for the parents after their death.
Proper education does not start at a certain age for the child, but begins before birth, and is to choose a partner or life partner who is highly educated. It then develops into good treatment between the two parties and follows Islamic law and the Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH) in social transactions. This is what we consider to be a preparatory period for raising a child.
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Raising a child with good morals means that before teaching the child to treat others as he likes to treat them, he or she must learn to empathize with them and think before doing any work, and to think that the consequences of this act may affect him and others.
The child is influenced by those around him because he always seeks to imitate, so the child's morals and upbringing are influenced by a number of factors, including the environment in which he grows and around him, whether his parents, family, friends, school, as well as the media and the outside community, except for the fluctuation of his mood due to illness or pain that results in the prolongation of words and deeds.
Many parents face their children's misbehavior, which increases their anxiety and distress and leads them to look for ways to raise them with good manners, but before that they must know the reasons why the child leads to misconduct and understand them in order to make it easier for them to find appropriate solutions.
Ways to teach your child good manners:
Parents must instill good morals in a child's heart when it is reasonable and can discriminate, because before that it is controlled by his instincts and needs, here are some ways:
Rule-making:
The couple must agree on one educational way to follow them, so that one of them does not destroy what the other is building. Establish rules that show the child that there are limits they should not exceed while clarifying the consequences of crossing borders, where they learn that certain actions and behaviours cannot be avoided.
The child's relationship with his or her parents:
A child's relationship with his parents is the first moral lesson he can learn, they are his first teachers, when a child spends his first years with loving parents who give birth to a sense of justice and happiness, which also creates a sense of guilt when he hurts or injures someone.
Honesty:
Honesty is the most important thing that can be taught to the child, because the origin of moral assets, because lying to children as young as they are in the most trivial things leads to their dependence on the same false tricks in the face of difficult situations.
Good example:
Good example and appropriate behavior: To make children's good manners, parents must first do it, because children learn life lessons through parental control, for example: if parents get angry when frustrated, the child will learn that anger is the right reaction when frustrated, so calm ness and cohesion are important at all times.
Teach the child patience:
Teaching the child patience and instilling this behavior into his personality is not easy, giving things time without haste, such as remembering daily lessons, being patient to research information or reaching a goal. The speed of the rhythm of life in terms of the revolution of communications and electronic devices has made getting the desired achieved at the touch of a button and this makes the child less patient. A table for the child can be prepared to show his progress in accomplishing tasks, it increases his sense of achievement and success, which makes him patient to reach the goal or achieve the demand
Dialogue with the child:
The method of dialogue and asking the child why he is doing something, and knowing whether he understands its impact on others, helps to convince the child of the good or bad work he does, without the direct preaching methods followed by many parents such as: work and do not work without knowing the causes and motives of the child and explaining the following to him.
Reduce bad impressions:
Parents should realize that the violent and abusive behavior of a child may affect his or her behavior, for children in general imitating bad behavior is easier than imitating good behavior.
Teach the child listening skills:
Listening to others is good manners, children can be reacted because of the slightest things because of misunderstanding and lack of listening, teaching the child that listening is part of the process of communication and not interrupting others while talking is important.
Meet the child's friends:
Some friends have a negative impact on the child except the good and good principles, parents should get to know the child's friends closely and see if they affect the child's morals negatively. If the effect is negative, parents should inform their child not to babysit this friend with the reasons.
In the end, the education of the child with good morals is done with love and patience, not by violence and anger, guidance and education through intimidation and cruelty, all of which is gone, and there is nothing left in the child's head but the pain and humiliation he felt from punishment. Children whose values are built with compassion and understanding are better able to be good and not to cross red lines.
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