10 Negative Consequences Of Being Too Kind

People keep saying, "Be kind to others." But at the same time, they forget to mention that often great kindness makes us suffer in the end.

There is always a risk that you might be taken advantage of because of your soft nature. In addition, in your constant desire to help others, you forget to take care of yourself and neglect your own needs, which leads to the destruction of the most important relationship in your life - with yourself.

To learn how to say no and maintain a balance between making other people happy and taking care of yourself, you must first understand the dangers of being too kind.

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1. Your kindness is being taken advantage of.

If people in your social circle call you a kind person, then they are likely to take advantage of your generosity. If they need a favor, you will be the first person they turn to. And all because they know that you cannot deny yourself the opportunity to help someone. Unfortunately, if you give everything to other people, you will have nothing left for yourself.

2. People expect you to do what you are told. Always.

In our cynical world, kindness is generally seen as a sign of weakness. So if someone shows excessive kindness, people automatically assume that this person can be easily manipulated. In your case, this will mean that others expect you to obey their will, since in their eyes you are a pawn that can be easily controlled.

3. You attract bad people to you.

Following the law of physics about the attraction of opposites, kind people often attract insincere personalities to themselves. If you find yourself surrounded by toxic people, your open soul may be the reason. From their point of view, you are someone who can be used for your own benefit, because you are too kind to refuse someone.

4. You forget to take care of yourself.

If you constantly put other people's needs first instead of your own, you will eventually stop caring for yourself at all. There's probably a healthy dose of selfishness that doesn't fit into your understanding of kindness, but sometimes you just need to put yourself first. Otherwise, people will get used to being your number one priority and will want you to get used to it too.

5. People have stopped respecting you.

If you allow others to take advantage of your kindness and openness of soul, there will be no reason for others to respect you. If you don't see the difference between being kind and knowingly letting other people take advantage of your altruism, you can't get anyone to respect you.

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6. You stop being kind to yourself.

By doing your best for other people, you forget the importance and necessity of being kind to yourself. Your attention is constantly focused on helping others, which is why you lose sight of your own needs. So, you just do not see that you are also a person who also needs to be treated with compassion.

7. People think you are insincere.

It is extremely difficult to meet a truly kind person with a high level of emotional intelligence these days. This is why some people may see your empathy as a mask. They call you insincere, suspecting that you have bad intentions inside you.

8. You never have enough time for yourself.

Whenever you feel like stepping back and resting, there is always someone who needs your help. And your excessive kindness does not allow him to refuse it. Unfortunately, by trying to please everyone around you, you thereby lose time to take care of yourself.

9. You have difficult periods of emotional burnout.

The constant execution of other people's orders and the fulfillment of the wishes of other people leads to too frequent emotional burnout. You enjoy making others happy, but it fills your life with unbearable anxiety and worry. But is it worth it?

10. Your heart is filled with hate.

If other people expect you to do whatever they ask for them and come to their aid at any moment, then sooner or later you will begin to resent them for the way they treat you. You think that you are doing everything possible for them, so people simply have to treat you with respect and admiration. However, in reality, this is not always the case, because people are used to taking your kindness for granted. Such behavior awakens anger and hatred in you, eating you alive.