Greetings brother, We are few men who publish or you are the first I see, but here we are participating with the ladies.
Brother, it is as you say regarding self-fulfillment for personal development, if we are not well with ourselves we cannot be well with anyone and that part of the time we are going to invest in ourselves.
You always have to take that step that makes a change for the better in our lives and that change to begin with must be physical, a real change that is noticeable and helps us to improve progressively.