Yes I can relate to that. Brings back school memories where I was often afraid of asking questions when I was curious, uncertain and/or confused. Especially with the kids in the classrooms making fun of the few asking questions. Defining the few as being 'stupid' and what not, leading to a public embarrassment of being targeted by bullies. The effect of children amongst themselves when it comes to such interactions is in itself an extensive topic to explore :)

For now, my approach on mistakes has been to redefine the word for myself. I now, when I do have moments of reacting emotionally when making a mistake and having the familiar pattern of seeing myself as a failure try resurfacing within me (a pattern I have consciously walked through changing my life): see the mistake as a MISS-TAKE :)
A MISS-TAKE to me now is where I remind myself I just miss took a moment of attempting something. Didn't quite have the best take the first go to be successful. Then, I learn from whatever I missed in the experience. How I could prepare myself better or ask for more support from others to contribute in my venture. Then, I take the moment again, the opportunity to complete whatever venture I was initially attempting.

Sometimes I easily remember to approach mistakes in the above way and other times it is hard, especially when overwhelmed with the sense of failing. When reminding myself to breathe, slow down and stand within my redefined approach to the word miss-take - I have the motivation to learn. To see miss-takes as opportunities for learning to make the entire venture I am attempting as a journey of small successes by learning through miss-takes / failures into the eventual ultimate success of completing the venture / task at hand.

Thanks for connecting and the vote. Grateful to have had the opportunity to share my experience with the word mistake from you sharing your experience. See you around :)