Emotional triggers are an important part of how we interact with the world. They're also essential to understand if you want to develop emotional intelligence.
In this post, I'll give you some basic understanding about how the brain is wired.
The main point here is that you need to have an understanding of how you process emotions. Then, you can start building your emotional intelligence.
Why Is Emotional Triggers Important?
First off, understanding why emotional triggers are important helps you manage them better.
You might think "I know how I feel... and I know how other people react when they feel something." You might also think "Why don't they get it?"
When I asked myself those questions years ago, I came up with answers that seem pretty obvious now, but weren't always so easy to recognize then.
Let me tell you about my personal experience first.
My parents had a very big fight in front of our family. A big argument. It took place in front of everyone.
The argument started over nothing.
Afterwards, I was devastated. I felt like the biggest disappointment in the world. I just couldn't understand why my parents were fighting and what the fight was about.
I didn't understand what they were saying.
My mother seemed furious, while my father looked sad.
Later, when I was much older, I learned about emotional triggers.
About Emotional Triggers
You see, the argument was an emotional trigger for me.
It wasn't really about anything specific. It was just about arguing, and about people yelling. I had never been around arguments before. So, I felt scared and angry when the argument happened.
But what made it even worse for me was the fact that I didn't understand why they were arguing. My brain thought they were arguing about something specific. That's where my confusion came from.
The real reason for the argument came later when I learned about emotional triggers.
Understanding How We Process Emotions
You see, emotional triggers are how the brain processes emotions. The way the brain processes emotions is by separating out emotional words or phrases.
So, the first step in understanding how you process emotions is to separate out emotional triggers and make them conscious.
For example, if you have a strong feeling about something, you probably won't be able to stop yourself from saying "that hurts". You'll feel anger, sadness or frustration.
How to Identify Emotional Triggers
To identify emotional triggers, you'll need to pay attention to your own emotions.
The trick here is to do that in a way that's constructive, rather than destructive.
I used to struggle with anger and frustration. They were difficult emotions for me to handle.
One day, I realized that I felt the same way when I heard someone else talk about something frustrating.
That gave me an idea.
I started listening to my wife. I made a rule for myself. If she started talking about something that made
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