“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
This is known as the Golden Rule. It’s what I try to live my life by and I do my best to keep it in mind during all of my interactions with others both on and offline. Under normal circumstances, it’s really not that hard, and I think that most people naturally do this in regular interactions. In certain cases though, it can be very, very difficult, and those are the times I believe it’s the most important.
One example that is very applicable to Steem is with online interactions. When interacting with others over a distant and impersonal medium such as the internet I think we often lose sight of the fact that the person on the other end of the computer screen is a human being - just like ourselves. When that happens we lose the natural inclination to treat the other person as we would like to be treated.
I find that I also have this tendency sometimes when I interact with people online and to combat it I try to think about how I would act if I were talking to the person face to face. We all know that most people would not say the same things they post online in a face to face interaction!
The hardest thing that I’ve found though is to continue to apply the Golden Rule even when someone has treated you badly, or wronged you in some way. In many cases with people who are typically very nice to others, everything goes out the window when someone does something they don’t like. This is again exacerbated when it happens online.
The rule is “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. period. It doesn’t have any exceptions or conditions. It doesn’t say “do unto others as you would have them do unto you, except if they’ve treated you badly first”, although this is how it’s often implemented in practice.
If you want to really be a true follower of the Golden Rule (as I try to be, although I’m not quite there yet) then this is the part you need to master. To still be able to treat someone with kindness, understanding, and empathy even after they have attacked or wronged you is the ultimate achievement in self control and personal interaction, in my opinion.
There are many, many times on Steem in particular where someone responds to something I’ve written with a mean, personal attack, and my initial reaction is almost always to respond in kind. But I’ve learned to wait and give it some time before I respond which allows me to remember and apply the Golden Rule.
If everyone could apply the Golden Rule - even in these difficult situations - then Steem, the internet, and indeed the whole world would be much better off. Of course I know that that will never happen, but at least I can try to do my part by following the rule in my own interactions, and if this post helps even one other person do the same then it will be well worth the effort to write it!
Thank you for reading! I know this is quite different than my typical posts about bot tracker updates and various other development projects, but I hope you liked it. Let me know what you think in the comments and I will treat thoughtful commenters the way I would like to be treated on Steem - with upvotes!
I think steemit offers a platform for both spreading kindness and rudeness. This post has inspired me to pursue the second one more. I remember the first time someone upvoted my post and left a nice comment, I was so happy! I think all of us could benefit from following the golden rule as much as possible, thanks for the inspiration!
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Well I think that this is such a great rule. I'm in love with the Golden rule.It is a law of nature that whatever action we take in this world, there is always a reaction. If we do well, we stand to gain a good reward. We must always try to have an impact on people who cross our path every day, we never know what tomorrow will bring. Anyways your absolutely right to say that people don't intent to say things directly to the face but can do so online and behind their back. It's so sad that people are like that, I have a few of those people on my plate as well but man does it hurt. Anyways I think golden rule is the way into the future.
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❤️🙏Thanks @yabapmatt. A very timely message and reminder for us all. I too try to live by this and, as you say, it’s most important during the times when it’s the most challenging. I like what you said about pretending the person is face to face with you.
It can be so hard to understand where people are coming from, what makes them take the actions they do... we’ve gotta be kinder. Personally and I think there are sooo many here on steemit who feel this way too: I’d love steem to be able to be an internet haven among social sites. Indeed, when I first joined one of the things that amazed me the most was how kind everyone was. Given recent in-fighting, we’re up against a large challenge and I hope many can hear your words and take them to heart 💜
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Very true! People escalate everything in their online responses vs face to face interactions, the blockers of anonymity and the disconnect of body language decrease their attachment to the other person.
I think the golden rule is even more important in online interactions, as there is a permanent record of all your communication on the internet! Also things can quickly spiral if you get into a mud-slinging fight online, far better to nip it in the bud with unexpected kindness!
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Thank you @yabapmatt for reminding us about the golden rule.
The Golden rule is something that comes naturally with me too and I am glad that I have, because it is working for me here on steemit.
Am still able to upvote some people's post who have made themselves my enemies and it takes the golden rule to do that.
Good you shared this, so that the world would be reminded because it is lacking in the world.
Resteemed.
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Those that follow this rule need no other rules.
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Other than maybe "don't eat yellow snow" :-P
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This is a unique post from you. I have been known to lose my shit over the very simple of things. This would be really cool if i could follow this rule. Thanks for sharing this. I will definitely think before i post anything silly the next time
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Interesting concept what you call the Golden Rule, it is not easy try to empathize with everybody but "stop" "think" and apply this rule is the best action anyone can do, probably if the other side is attacking the golden rule action will disarm this person and you could change the situation inmmediatlly. I am sure this is the best way, try to empathize and do what we wait from others. Thanks for share! Please, more post like this, I vote and fallow you! try my post and comment if you like https://steemit.com/ego/@marceladiomede/what-is-ego-for-you-for-me-ego-is-losing-myself-in-the-shape
For me, not lossing in the shape is apply the golden rule!
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Yes this is a good point and does happen surprisingly often. Thanks for mentioning it!
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i think it is difficult to treat someone with kindness when they attacked and wronged you
but what i personally do i remain silent and doesn't respond
if every one could apply the golden rule then this world would have been different!
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My dear friend @yabapmatt , First, thank you very much for sharing this great article on interacting with others in general.
Second, I believe in the golden rule, I respect and appreciate all members, and respect their views (praise, denunciation)،Always in the community of Stemit or personal and professional life, I love to treat everyone with good ethics and mutual trust, I believe that everyone represents his ethics, the best things to deal with everyone good words so that we can build a society of love and brotherhood.
I apologize for the written mistakes because of my weakness in English.
Good luck my dear friend @yabapmatt 👍👍😉
All the best for you😊
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Sometimes simple letters distort the correct sense of written and misunderstanding appears. Too most concerns a punctuation. Often people on the Internet don't attach significance to a punctuation.
If the executioner receives the order "Execute, It Is Impossible to Pardon", then the axe is used and if to move a comma slightly more ("It is impossible to execute, to pardon") - the execution is cancelled. (Казнить нельзя помиловать -
the original version of the saying). This known Russian saying illustrates a role of characters of a punctuation.
And in general it is necessary to be just polite and even if have faced rudeness, not to answer the same.
I wish all to meet kind sympathetic people both on the Internet, and in life.
Forgive my English. Google translator.
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Great thanks for your vote !
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It is for sure the greatest challenge, Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. I haven't come across much distasteful commenting on steemit as there existing outside of this platform, and to some extent I was somewhat suprised. I was wondering if this had to do with folk not wanting to offend and hence get voted down. Either way it is a refreshing change.
But the power lies in our hands. The only experience we can deal with, is our own. Not only how we react, but how we act and operate in the world.
It is always good to raise these issues so we can take stock an evaluate just how well we are oding in the generousity-of-spirit department. Thank you for the reminder.
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Hey @yabapmatt, I know you say you are still learning the Golden Rule, but I think you are already far along in using it in your daily life.
I have never personally met you, but I hear of you and the things you are doing on the Steemit platform and for other Steemians constently.
I think your positive influence and golden rule approach on the Steemit platform is having a greater impact than you may be aware of.
I followed you and have witness voted for you because of the influence you have on the platform. You are a solid Steemian and others like me are learning how to have a positive influence from the example you continually set.
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if only the "golden rule" that you convey is capable of being digested by everyone then it will be peace of the world, because the beginning of the problem in this world is our heart and oral, the heart that moves everything so that every interaction can take place.
the golden rule you are referring to is actually the desire of every human being to be treated as well as possible and appreciated, but we do not forget also that nature is already created for day and night, there is good and evil, we humans can only choose the best according to us, if man believes the existence of god then god has also prepared hell and heaven for man, and "golden rule" is one way to get into the door of heaven.
hopefully more and more people see "golden rule" so the model in life so that the world becomes harmonious and there is no need to hurt, even just with our words and writing.
peace greetings "Golden Rule"
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The Golden rule can never be over stated. And it's quite unfortunate that people that treat you bad start to complain when you decide to return such ill favours. Sometimes, acting as the mature one gives you a better edge.
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That is indeed true..
We don't behave on the internet like we would in a face to face interaction. Actually following this Golden rule would solve a lot of problems.
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seeking peace rather than making new enemies is really a wise move. I did make friend in the end with someone who downvoted me before. Even there was slight anger but I choose to change for the better. Today, I found some success in steemit but still a long way from being succcessful. We need friends to support one another in steemit so you did the right thing.
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Lol. Yea. It really does deviate from the norm. But a little deviation is some fresh air from time to time. It is necessary every once in a while.
The golden rule is an excellent principle. I like to believe that it transcends all religion and moralsl. If only we all lived by it, we might have had a better world.
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To put it into different words, "do unto others as you would have done unto you," means that one should treat others as one wants to be treated. Obviously, we all want to be treated well, right? If one does not want to be picked on or bullied, alienated, or ostracized, one should not pick on, bully, alienate, or ostracize anyone else. Theoretically, this would work to create a pattern of good will: if I treat you well because that is how I want to be treated, then that will put you in a good mood, so you are more likely to treat your friend well, and that will put him in a good mood, and he will treat his sister well, and so on and so forth. Even if it does not work out this way, then I have still behaved in a good and moral way, and I can feel good about that. It is almost like saying: no matter how anyone else treats you, you can still do right and treat them well.
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first we have to reduce the psychic disease, named "self-interest" :)
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Ironically, I find that my self-interest is better served by following this rule than otherwise.
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If I understand that right, it sounds like good marketing move : if you want to serve yourself, you have to listen what other people need
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I've actually found that, even amidst the mountains of spam, the conversations I have with people here on steemit are much more civil and intellectually rewarding than the inevitable flame wars that plague facebook and twitter. Somehow knowing our words and thoughts are worth someone else's (monetary valuable) upvote - or not - seems to make people say more thought-through, well-articulated and less inflammatory things.
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That is indeed very true many pretend that this rule doesn't applyin their lives but sad but but certainly that is how life works its the law of nature it comes without any invitation.
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I try to live by the golden rule, not just in the words I use, but also in the content I upvote. That is why I use my SP to elevate worthy posts instead of paying for bots to elevate my posts. It is what I would want others to do for me!
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I love the Golden rule. How easy would life be, if we could follow this one simple rule. You've written this brilliantly. Thank you for sharing.
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The Golden administer can never be over expressed. What's more, it's very sad that individuals that treat you awful begin to gripe when you choose to return such sick favors.
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I can not imagine and this does not include me if someone is willing to do a personal attack on you
it opened up new hope for me and evoked new ideas even if only a few
The personal strikes on steam made me very surprised, but the initial response I gave was good enough
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That is to be sure valid. We don't act on the web like we would in an eye to eye association. As a matter of fact following this Golden govern would tackle a considerable measure of issues.
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No one wants to be treated badly, may it be on line or face to face. I hope this would be enough motivation to apply the golden rule everyday in every manner, every way. Thanks for sharing, @yabapmatt
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Thanks! I think some of us forget about this sometimes, and I'm no exception.
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Yes for sure we should behave as we want others to behave with us. We generally tend to look down upon someone but what if they look down upon me in a similar me. Or maybe someone else looks down upon me like that. Everyone for sure would never want that to happen however if we follow the golden rule we can see the changes coming and that too really quick.
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Really very nice and right your golden rule.
Have a nice day.
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Absolutely sir that should be the attitude... If u are nice to me, I will be nice to u, simple as that...
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Very nice collaboration of ideas! I would love to make a animation about this give me your thoughts. I'm THE ONLY one animator on DTUBE please check me out and give your thoughts about creating a animation from this article! Thanks.
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Yo pienso que esta plataforma nos haces ser un tanto amable, y agradable, algo que debería de ser natural en las personas día a día, para mi ha sido muy divertido la interacción de tanto talento desde que hago vida en esta red, es muy claro tu post e interesante, yo pienso de esa forma "trata como quieres que te traten". Pero claro no trates nunca de caerles bien a todos, hay que ser uno mismo, original, sin usar muchas mascaras. Se valora mas una persona sincera, claro está que es complicado tener esa confianza en las redes de Internet, aunque esta plataforma es muy diferente, sigue trayendo bueno post, desde hoy soy un nuevo seguidor de ti. Saludos! Un fuerte abrazo!.
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i always said it's law of attraction. treat someone as best as you wanna treated by someone
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You got a 100.00% upvote from @childfund courtesy of @yabapmatt!
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The Golden Rule is positive in nature and by it, Christ commands positive action. Rather than simply tell us not to hate, Christ tells us to actively love others. For example, do you want others to protect and preserve your life when you are in danger? Yes. Therefore, in order to keep the Golden Rule you would need to do the same to others, seek to protect and preserve their life. Shortly before His crucifixion Jesus told His disciples, "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another" (John 13:34–35). "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is one way to explain what loving others looks like in practice.
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Biblically speaking “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”... Very short word! (^_^)
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Very nice post👍
By the way , didn't you forget about me 😊
@robkas
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Happens a lot. The "other" suddenly feels like a character. A concept. Even an enemy.
I guess it is easier that way. It is scary.
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I also try hard to be nice, be a cool guy and on top of everything else - be polite as my mother taught me :P
It works wonders in a world where everyone seems to have forgotten these things, where rage abounds and everyone is salty.
I agree with you..
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This post has received a 2.97 % upvote from @speedvoter thanks to: @yabapmatt.
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The good thing about steemit is that it encourages good behavior, no one will upvote your - bad/abusive comments - they may get flagged. You play nice and everyone shows love.....lol
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Hola, buenas noches! Fernando desde Soacha - Colombia. Me gusto encontrar estas reflexiones, no la creí ver en esta comunidad; enhorabuena, simpatizo con estas líneas de tener la actitud agradable, para con todos.
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Nice @yabpmatt. Upvote i small
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Everyone who make there work open source are following this rule in the digital world. :) thanks for your help the other day! :D
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Such a great post and life philosophy. At some point, we all need the help of others. It takes a village!
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Very nice post @yabapmatt. The Golden Rule (Matthews 7:12, Luke 6:31) old but not obsolete and will never be. In a modern world we are living, it is very challenging for us to apply this "The Golden Rule" but for me, the joy of living with it pays the best of value.. Thanks for sharing..
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