You will go through many difficulties in your life because of your own choices and ways of doing things. You may lament the unfair fate, but all kinds of misfortunes in your life are actually caused by yourself. As the saying goes. Character determines fate, but I think character is too one-sided, and three views determine fate. If you want to have a good destiny, you must have a good three views. But once people's three views are formed, it is very difficult to change them.
- The root of all problems is your three views, which determine all the abstract things around you
I often hear a saying: since you can't change the world, change yourself. This sentence should be more explicit. What should I change? Change everything about yourself? Change your appearance? I think this sentence means: change your own three views.
Three views include world outlook, outlook on life and values. World outlook is people's general and fundamental view of the whole world. Outlook on life refers to the view of life, that is, the view of the purpose, value and significance of human existence. Values refer to people's general and fundamental views on the value of things on the basis of understanding the value of various concrete things.
Simply put, all your views are your three views. For example, if you think you are not pretty enough, maybe you are not as pretty as another person in public aesthetics, but this is your own point of view. Of course, I'm not asking you to deceive yourself, I'm just telling you that it's your fault, too. You don't think you are good-looking, so you don't dress up with your heart. The beautiful women and handsome men you see on the Internet are just carefully dressed and cared for. You may not know that they have thought about it before. Your viewpoint leads you not to make yourself more beautiful, and leads you to be tied up in your life and interpersonal communication. Of course, it may be true sometimes, but I'm not asking you to deceive yourself, but I'm asking you to understand what is the focus of your life and what you want.
Your views and thoughts determine your actions and destiny. When people around you are in danger, you will choose to help or not. Help, you think that person is very important to you, he has a good relationship with you, or you think that helping him can create a helpful image, or helping him will be extremely helpful to your future life and life. On the contrary.
Views and thoughts determine your actions and all kinds of behaviors in your life. And all kinds of behaviors have all kinds of consequences, and these consequences have formed all kinds of fortunes and misfortunes encountered in your life.
Your destiny is doomed.
Your opinions and thoughts determine your ability. You may think: How is that possible? Maybe you will find the following reasons somewhat far-fetched. But I just want to prove my point, and it is. Your ability is really due to your ideas.
Writing, for example, is not important to you, so if you don't study, you will lack this skill. Therefore, if you don't study with your heart and effort, your writing level will not be high. So you often can't keep studying it for a long time, and your level is not high. Such as various courses you study in school and various skills you can use in society.
Your environment may make you think that all these things I said are not available. Some people think: I have so much pressure in my life now, can you reduce my pressure? I am a child now, living in a very poor home. Can you make my life better? I don't have a girlfriend now. Can you give me a girlfriend after I change my mind?
My answer is: Yes. These questions, you don't want to think why? How to solve it? Are you waiting to get better? Change your mind and solve it. (Nonsense! ! ! )
My intention is to let you know what is the key point in your life, let you think clearly what you want, and how to solve the difficulties and setbacks in your life with your own mentality.
- What problems can be solved by having a correct three views?
You can solve all problems. Typical examples are interpersonal relationships.
What's right here is somewhat inaccurate. What is right? Without standards, the three views that can make you feel happy in life are correct.
This is my idea of interpersonal relationship.
Interpersonal relationship is something everyone must face, because people are social animals, and you are human, so you have to communicate. It is not feasible to try to stay away from the crowd. Face it calmly. Human nature is evil, but they strive for beauty. People in interpersonal relationships are often selfish, no matter how they behave, so you will be less angry with those selfish behaviors in interpersonal relationships.
It is a natural process for people to meet and know each other. Look at interpersonal communication rationally and start with human nature. You can see every kind of communication thoroughly, which is interest and which is real emotion.
Once I was afraid of socializing, I felt guilty for my words and deeds, and I was afraid that I would offend my contacts and they would look down on me. I don't know what is the focus of my life.
Conclusion: To find the root of the problem, we should have a correct three views, not waste our lives, set a goal, and strive to achieve it.