Gestures that harm the image you project to others

We all know that gestures and postures reveal personality, attitude, and morale. Each of us subconsciously adopts ways of looking, walking, and presenting ourselves. They become part of our style and sometimes "betray" us by showing what we don't want.

Social contracts can be temporary. Others form a conscious/unconscious image of us. Our words and body language influence their opinions.

“To be 'perceptive' means to detect contradictions between a person's words and body language”.

Allan Pease

If these fleeting situations didn't matter, it would be fine. However, it can be a professional interview or meeting to make relevant contacts. Also, situations where we want to please someone who interests us emotionally and make him feel good about us.

For these reasons, learning to recognise and interpret our gestures is important. Polishing them helps them work in our favour when needed. Let's immediately identify these harmful gestures that need to be addressed.

Biting our lower lip indicates rejection of what we say. This gesture will be misinterpreted as a doubt or error in what you're saying without your knowledge.

This gesture implies a hidden message. "I didn't say this" is a common refrain. Biting my fingers.” Good interpretation. Biting ourselves indicates a secret that contradicts our words.

Frowning shows anger, embarrassment, or rejection. Tension often causes this gesture. But some do it so often they carve the mark on their face.

We frown when nervous. It also shows a lack of self-confidence and in others. We do this to improve our vision or defend ourselves.

Because it's a reflex to nervousness, this is one of the hardest gestures to control. 14–17 blinks per minute are normal. When nervous, that number skyrockets.

Our interlocutor is drawn to our rapid blinking. They often stop listening and focus on our open lack of confidence.

Expressive hands. Emphasize, elude, punctuate, and finish. This is why people think a talkative, gesturing person is more confident and spontaneous. It's sincere.

Conversely, hiding hands while speaking conveys the opposite. He's hiding something. Putting your hands behind you, in your pockets, under the desk, or crossed is bad. This blocks communication with your partner.

Smiling opens the most hearts. Smiles unintentionally boost your conversational status. This is essential for a peaceful, kind conversation.

However, constantly smiling or laughing can reverse the effect. She expresses nervousness, lack of concentration, or an excessive desire to be accepted. This message lowers others' self-esteem.

These cases do not involve adopting a false identity. Contrary. Gestures reveal a person. Thus, if she is aware of her body language, she can change it to convey her true self.

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