Be strong my friend and remember it is not you! Run silent and run deep, refuse to engage regardless of the coming depth charges of accusations. My sister went through this several years ago. Keep your eyes on the prize of a new life! I have read every one of your posts and everything that you described happened to my sister, including trying to isolate my sister from me (blood is always thicker than water). Get as much control over your finances as possible. Also, and this is very important, if you can go over all of your credit card statements look for cash advances. These folks always, and I mean always have a stash. Get cellphone records, always tracks what seeds she has been planting and with who. Best wishes to you my friend.