Torn Between Two Lovers: Career Or Being A Mother

in parenting •  7 years ago  (edited)

What Should I Do?

Currently I am happy with my career, the satisfaction on the job... But disturb with the heart of a mother...

Dilemma of a friend who is currently torn. Scared of the future that she can provide to her children:

Will I be able to give the future I want for them should I give up my career? Or will I be less of a mother should I choose to work away from them?

Financial situation back then pushed her to work abroad. A mother who choose to be far from her children to be a good provider. She endures the loneliness, feeling of homesick and sadness of the night. Keeping in mind the bright future she can give that pushes her to get through the day. With selfless heart as she does not want her children to experience the bitterness of life. Not being greedy but as a mother, she just want the best for her children.

Though her children are in good hands, it is hard for her leaving them. She knows that her mom and siblings will take good care of them but sometimes, as they get naughty, little whine really breaks her heart. Being far, she cannot do anything but cry until she gets by.

One day, mom asked her to come back, be with the children and look after them. Her heart wants to go home but thought of starting from scratch makes her heart weak.

Confused, all she wants is what is best for her children...
Broken, she wants to be with them but scared of what the future brings...


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"I have loved you before you were born
Now that I am away it makes my heart torn
So many times I lied and cried
Hoping sooner we will have a joy ride

Please forgive me
For the days and nights I can't see
When you are sick
My heartbeat surely gets weak

Someday, I will hold you
Someday, I will carry you
Someday, memories come our way
Someday, every breath is a hooray!"
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What Is The Best Option?

Being far breaks her heart
Near and thinking of their future, heart feels dark

If YOU are in her shoe, what will you do?

Stay far and provide the best for your child?
Or be near though the future is unclear?



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God will answer at the right time. 😘

I agree!

Hello July!

Personally, I think she should go home. Her mom sees her children everyday, and if she says "come back, your children needs you" then that must mean that she feels the kids already need more than what she could offer. The kids need their mother. In the end, parang mas masakit masumbatan ng anak mo, "Eh kasi mommy, wala ka."

Just my thought though. Pray. God will tell.

:'( I can relate! Working abroad will not be our life vision. that's why when we are here, we should save so that when we go home, we can still feed our children.

it really felt bad.... both options are difficult to choose... =(

I honestly thought this was you... I thought you are preggy! I based it on reading the Subject!

Well, let her heart speaks for herself... in my opinion. I am sure her heart will never fail her...

Ask for an aswer "above". Let the heart tells.

Being on the same situation, right now I’d rather say I will stay and continue my career as I need to secure their future. It’s not being selfish because its for my children too. Unless someone will help her on the financial side she can go and be with her children if that is fine with her. But for me I won’t let anyone else carry the responsibility of providing for the needs of my children, I want to be the one to give that all to them. I know that time will come and with the proper communication with your children they will understand why you need to be away from them. And also involving them with all the financial needs, your personal struggles in life that includes them will help you a lot in getting by as they will help you along the way. Anyway there’s a lot of way of getting in touch with them so you won’t miss anything 😇 Thanks to #technology #socialmedias #messenger #skype #imo #instagram #viber #whatsapp and to all other apps that keeps us closer to our lovedones from around the globe 🌎

Hirap ... just cross the bridge when we get there ... kaya salute to all parents working abroad!

I would go back to my children...