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I did a three year long experiment with my child. No, it is nothing that is cruel, yes, it is ethical, to a certain extent. I tried getting my child's consensus to agree to the experiment, but she was only 5 months old. The experiment was based on a language teaching theory. There are many people, especially the older generation in my culture who would speak to children with a different language. The best way to describe this language is 'baby-talk'.
Normally, this refers to certain words that a child is unable to pronounce and would replace it with a similar sounding word. As the child's language is not fully developed, that is fine. However, when adults start doing that it creates a problem. As some may not be familiar with this kind of language, here are a few examples:
i) The repetition of action words: walk-walk , run-run, love-love.
ii) Representing common words with sounds : Mam-mam (eat), oi-oi (sleep), jut-jut (pacifier).
iii) Mixing dialect with English: kai-kai (go out and walk), bao-bao(carry).
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So, with the examples above, a common sentence would be:
It sounds really cute. However, the problem comes later on in life. I remember one particular course in my university days where it was recommended that a parent speak to a child the same way how they would speak to an adult. One of the main reason is because the child would have to unlearn what they have learnt.
Unlearn and Relearn
Imagine if you are the child and all your life, you were spoken to with this form of baby-talk. When you start studying in a preschool, it is likely that the teacher will tell the child to speak properly. The child will then have to go through a process of re-learning the language, getting rid of words that have been ingrained in his/her mind since a very young age.
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This makes further acquisition of grammar and vocabulary to be particularly difficult. While many children do eventually learn how to speak correctly, the process of re-learning the language at a later age is rather unnecessary. In addition, in cultures like mine where the child will be exposed to more than one language, this will only add to the confusion. Children from where I am from are exposed to at least three languages in pre-school in order to prepare them for primary school. As such, why not prepare the child to speak correctly from a very young age?
The experiment
With that in mind, my wife and I have been speaking to our eldest daughter like how we would, an adult. From the age of two, her vocabulary was more than 200 words and she could string sentences, although at times, incorrectly. It is interesting as well how it is theorized that toddlers are able to pick up complex grammar rules without really understanding grammar. One example would be the correct use of past and present tense as well as singular and plural words.
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She has also been able to speak in complex sentences. Complex sentences are sentences that has a subordinating conjunction. An example would be the use of 'because' and 'since' in the sentence. The only problem thus far is her refusal to learn a second language. No, it is not that I want my child to learn more than one language for fun, but it is mandatory in school. Perhaps, I will cross that bridge one day.
There are two lessons that can be learnt from this experiment. First of all, children are never to young to learn something, even language. The second lesson is that mastery comes with practice and exposure. It is through speaking to them with the correct sentence structure and pronunciation which will help the child develop their language skills. Now if you would excuse me, I'm going to see if this works for my second child. Hopefully, the results end up being the same.
We were trying to do the same thing as well, speaking proper English. But when i speak to my wife, the whole proper English thingy goes to Rojakglish...lol.
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Haha.. I know what you mean. But at the very least, you've started and bypassed the baby talk. That's a win already.
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I have a two-year-old myself too. I am bilingual but have been speaking English more at home as my husband and mum-in-law can't speak Mandarin. (My grammar is not as good though.)
So my son sorts of picked up English more and refuses to speak Mandarin at the moment. I'm quite amazed at his pronunciation with words ending with the "t" sound and his English is fairly good at the moment (though he doesn't know any complex sentence yet haha and uses "because" randomly). I was worried at first that his Chinese may not be as good but reading your experiment here, maybe I just focus on his English at the moment first and have to consciously eliminate all baby language :) I enjoy hearing a lil 'adult' speaking back to me these days with a lot of "oh my goodness". Thanks for this write-up @alvinauh !
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While living in Taiwan, I raised my oldest daughter entirely in French while the rest of the family (my wife is Chinese) spoke to her in Mandarin. She grew up fluent in three languages (she picked up English on her own because it is somewhat related to French).
As a linguist, I know that early childhood is a critical period for flawless language acquisition. I would strongly advise you to speak to your son entirely in your native language until it stabilizes. Chinese is very hard to pick up in an English-speaking environment. Multilingual Matters, a British publisher has several publications that can help you. I highly recommend reading books by Wang Xiaolei: Start with:
Growing up with Three Languages: Birth to Eleven
http://www.multilingual-matters.com/display.asp?K=9781847691064
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That's a great book, never came across it but will take a look. It's true, Mandarin is difficult, but once it has been picked up, especially the writing bit, it helps in other languages too
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Oh thank you with this great wonderful info @wentong-syhhae ! Appreciate it :)
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First read up on the subject. Don't forget to carefully explain to your inlaws what you're doing and why: it will make your son smarter and his thinking more flexible. Above all, don't treat your mother-son interactions as "teaching": kids (and many adults) hate to be "taught".
Just have fun in Chinese: simple cooking (kids love to help out), games, songs and play-dates with Chinese-speaking kids (esp. recent arrivals) etc.
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Same thing! I speak cantonese to my kids from when they were born. Husb speak to them in hokkien. Along the way we speak a bit of english with them and later when exposed to cartoons on tv they somehow pick up english better. Their chinese be it mandarin or dialects are hopeless, even though all the adults at home do not converse in english among one another.
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Definitely, culture and environment does play a party.. Or friends.. I was forced to pick up Cantonese because all my friends were speaking it.
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Thank you, appreciate you stopping by
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hope its not too late to train my almost-2-years-old daughter!
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Never too late. For some reason, girls pick up language faster, based on some very circumstantial studies..
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really impress me i like
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Great post! I think it's so interesting to see how children develop and start talking. Maybe if one parent speaks in one language and the other in the other,new language to her, she will pick the second language up more quickly? I was raised bilingually and it seems to have worked that way :)
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I was thinking of that.. But we went with English first and another language later. Hoping the environment will help her pick up the second language.. Lets see how that goes
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Very interesting account. Thank you for the post. It seems very valuable to understand that kids are keenly observing adults even if they can't speak yet! This seems like a good way to take advantage of that fact.
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It is, they hear everything.. Even how you respond to a bad driver.. Unfortunately..
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I am not a fan of baby talk at all! One thing I do often is mimic the sounds my son makes which I read can show you are engaged and paying attention to what they are saying. Aside from that the more diverse the vocabulary he or any child is exposed to the better. It's the same way with adults which is why reading is so crucial to the development of writing and expression of thought.
Thanks for the post!
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No problem, and yes! Reading! Been trying to get my children to start on that, can be a challenge especially when it comes to getting them focused.
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Nice picture, cute baby 😍😍
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